Are you a cis/hetero dude who feels like you’re missing all the signs?
Like maybe there are women out there who are into you, but you might just be oblivious?
Well, it seems like somebody on reddit was wondering the same, so they posed the question and got plenty of responses.
Of course, this is the Internet, so despite the fact that the OP specifically asks “girls of reddit” to respond, there was a ton of dude-splaining to sort through. Short of exhaustively searching each user-profile, I did my best to weed out all of the guys, and that pretty much left these 18 ladies. Men, listen up.
1. “Like really close…”
Personally, I stand a lot closer. Like, really close.
Also I seek you out more often to talk. Did I come over to ask what you’re doing for the 20th time today? I’ve got a crush.
I text you back every time on time.
Touch. I need to touch your arm.
Making eye contact from the across the room. A lot.
Smiling. Lots and lots of smiling. Like for no reason.
3. Banjo Kazooie
I found out he got that RARE game bundle on Xbox. I told to him that Banjo and Kazooie was one of my favorite childhood games (my N64 cartridge was also corrupted so I couldn’t play it anymore). So I kept asking to come over after work (and apologize a lot for wanting to hang out) and play it with him, I’d sit right beside him almost very cuddly.
He wasn’t really taking the hint, I think it was because we had been friends since grade 8 so he didn’t really think much of it, but he thought it was weird that I kept asking and then apologizing to hang out so much. One day I asked him if he wanted to go to the amusement park with me because I got free tickets, he said “sure” and thought nothing of it. Later that night I complain that I’m uncomfortable with my sitting position, to which he replies with “Then find something comfortable I guess.” I said “Okay” and landed my head on his shoulder.
That’s when everything clicked in his head.
As a shy girl I just look at you from across the room real often, if you you back I’ll be blushing like hell, and I’d stutter a lot if you talk to me. I’m a fucking failure when it comes to dating/flirting.
5. The List: I
- She touches her hair when you talk to herShe find excuses to be with you (school project, next to each other at bus)
- She laughs at your jokes
- She tells you emotional stories that happened to her, and only a few people know
- She texts you good morning, and you are the person she texts constantly
- She likes all your stuff on facebook, even that buzzfeed article you shared
If a girl says she wants to come over to do some laundry because her washer and dryer are both broken, and then comes over and ‘forgets’ to bring her laundry basket, it’s because she’s just forgetful. Definitely show her your guinea pig and try to do some calculus with her, so at least something productive can get done.
If we drag you along to any event or place– we like you.
8. Eyes Wide Shut
Avoiding eye contact cause we are afraid that you will catch us staring at you.
If we talk to you a lot but don’t really have a lot to say
I kind of hate that I do this, but if I’m “teasing” you or purposely bickering with you about something silly, I like you. I have a dark and sarcastic sense of humor though, and sadly I think I’ve accidentally made people feel bad for real.
For me personally, when I’m interested in a guy, I’ll make excuses to touch him. I’ll start with casual touches, on his hand or arm, or if I’m standing next to him maybe I’ll let my boobs brush against him. I’ll stand closer than necessary, or lean toward him if we’re seated. I’ll make eye contact, then look down, and repeat. If we planned to meet, there will be cleavage on display.
Recently I came up with a new strategy, after reading many threads about guys missing “obvious” signs. It’s very simple. I haven’t fully tested it yet, but essentially, I say, “You’re really cute. Want to make out?” I’m considering adding, “I’m interested in you sexually. I’m serious and not just being polite.”