When you fall in love for the fist time, everyone asks about the butterflies. Which is maybe why that’s the bar we set for measuring whether or not we’re really in love. But what happens when the butterflies go away? When you’re not sweaty and nervous to see your boyfriend, when you don’t feel short of breath as your wife comes in for a kiss, or feel yourself grinning like an idiot when she sends a good morning text? Does it mean you’re not in love anymore?

Not according to Tumblr user Elo, whose description of love-after-butterflies continues to periodically go viral – probably because it’s something that so many people identify with. After all, butterflies only live for a few weeks, and ideally we prefer our love affairs to endure much longer.

Photo Credit: Tumblr, helloelloh

So, what do you think? Do you still get butterflies when you see your husband of fifteen years wiping spaghetti off your two-year-old’s face, or do you get more of an appreciative warmth in your chest at the realization that you don’t have to do life alone?

I don’t know about you, but, having experienced both, I honestly think I prefer the second.

h/t: Bored Panda

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