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Woman with epilepsy is told her service dog isn’t allowed at friend’s home

From a young age, we understand that everyone has their own beliefs and ways of living—and often, it’s simple to appreciate both viewpoints, even when they clash.

Yet, standing firm on certain issues can sometimes draw harsh criticism that rattles your confidence. In times like these, seeking advice and perspective from others can be a real lifeline. That’s exactly what one woman did—and it might just have been her smartest move yet.

An epileptic woman with a service dog felt conflicted

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In a Reddit post asking for guidance, a 24-year-old woman shared her experience living with epilepsy—a serious condition that necessitates the support of a specially trained service dog to help her during seizures.

Her dog helps detect seizures

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She explained that service dogs trained to assist with epilepsy possess an incredible skill—they can sense an impending seizure before their owner even notices. Once the dog detects these subtle signals, it warns its owner, providing valuable time to find a safe place and prepare by sitting or lying down.

Dedicated to their work

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She revealed that if she doesn’t respond to the dog’s initial warning, it intensifies its efforts—nibbling on her sleeve and gently guiding her to the ground. When a seizure begins, the dog remains right by her side, making sure she stays down until it’s safe to move. Ultimately, the dog’s primary role is to keep her safe during these crucial times.

A lifelong partnership

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Diagnosed early in life, she has relied on a service dog for most of her journey. In fact, one of her loyal canine companions has already retired after many years of dedicated service.

Life with Bailey

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Naturally, the next step was to welcome a new service dog, and for the past four years, that role has been filled by a devoted pup named Bailey.

In her own words, “She is the bestest girl around.”

That one friend

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The woman often meets up with her core friend group and given the nature of her medical issue, Bailey is always with her.

However, one of those friends (who she code-named Anna) has a history of making passive-aggressive comments about Bailey for reasons the woman can’t put her finger on.

Anna drops some strange hints

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Apparently, Anna was in the habit of telling the woman that dogs shouldn’t come to restaurants and that she was inconveniencing people by bringing Bailey everywhere.

As the woman put it, “She doesn’t get that I legitimately need her for my own safety. It’s not just for show.”

Different kinds of seizures

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The woman explained that seizures are an everyday occurrence for her. Sometimes, they’re relatively small “petit mal” seizures that she described as looking like she’s simply zoning out.

As she wrote, “Quite often, people who don’t know me wouldn’t even connect this.”

A much bigger deal

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Contrasting with these are her “big” seizures that cause her to lose consciousness entirely.

Unfortunately, it’s also not unusual for these to happen a couple of times a day, so it’s imperative for her that these episodes pass as smoothly as possible.

A game night without any fun

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One night, Anna hosted a game night among these friends, but it didn’t take long for the festivities to devolve into an argument.

According to the woman, Anna blew up at her and told her that it was “incredibly disrespectful” to show up with Bailey without asking for permission first.

The rant continued

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Anna went on to say that the woman couldn’t just assume people will always be happy with having a dog around.

She also went as far as to say that she should’ve just stayed home if she couldn’t handle going for a few hours without Bailey.

An attempt to keep the peace

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The woman tried to apologize but also expressed how confused this made her since she couldn’t imagine why she would’ve expected someone who needed a service dog not to bring it with her.

For some reason, this only made Anna angrier.

A dangerous compromise

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Although she didn’t feel comfortable taking the risk of leaving her dog outside, the woman felt pressured by Anna, and agreed to leave Bailey outside while they had their game night inside.

As she let the dog outside, she had a sinking feeling that something could go wrong.

People pleasing

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Although this makes her feel stupid now, the woman said she agreed because she didn’t want to see any more conflict in the group.

In her words, “I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone more or continue stirring the pot.”

Exactly what she was afraid of

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Unfortunately, circumstances would soon demonstrate clearly why the woman needs Bailey as she had a seizure serious enough to make her black out.

This led her to slam her head on the floor hard enough that she had to be hospitalized.

No shame whatsoever

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While most people would expect Anna to feel mortified and regretful after causing such a serious incident, she apparently refused to admit she had done anything wrong.

What the woman heard from her friends was that Anna accused her of passing out for attention and bitterly said she had gotten her way.

An explosion of outrage

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If they weren’t inclined to do so already, this callous attitude ensured that the woman’s friends unloaded on Anna in a fury.

They described her as hateful, toxic, and a jealous witch. In the aftermath, the friend group has dropped contact with Anna completely.

It doesn’t end there

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In the time since the incident, Anna, her sister, and her mother have all repeatedly contacted her.

In these messages, they’ve berated her and demanded she “fix this situation.” Presumably, this means somehow convincing her friends to forget what they witnessed and let Anna back into the friend group without so much as an apology.

Seeking perspective

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Although the woman couldn’t see how she could possibly be in the wrong, these messages started to get to her enough that she decided to see how those on Reddit saw her situation.

And the overwhelming majority of commenters were horrified by Anna and her family’s actions. As one user said, “She literally caused you to SUFFER A MEDICAL INCIDENT. She had so little regard for your health and wellbeing that she caused you actual
harm.”

Don’t suffer in silence

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Some commenters also advised telling the friends who stuck up for her what Anna’s family has been sending her.

As one of them put it, “Your friends deserve to know that they did the right thing. Seeing her sick (sic) her family on you will reassure them they were right about her.”

Bailey should not have been a surprise

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A few commenters bought Anna’s argument that the woman shouldn’t have assumed that she would be OK with a dog that has not visited her home before, but the woman revealed that it made no sense for Anna to say this.

The woman said she does her best to accommodate new people but that Anna had known her for over a decade. She also knew the specifics of Bailey’s job and had even seen her care for the woman during seizures.

A bizarre revelation

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Baffled at this information, some commenters wracked their brains for a reasonable explanation to Anna’s extreme reaction to Bailey’s presence. One asked if she had a traumatic experience with a dog or an allergy.

And what they learned was not only that Anna has a dog of her own, but that this dog gets along very well with Bailey.

A hint at Anna’s true motivation

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In response to a comment, the woman talked about how supportive her best friend since the third grade has been through her journey. He was with her around the time she was first diagnosed to ensure she was OK and he’s always among the first to respond when she has a seizure in public.

As she worded it, “He’s truly a saint of a human and idk what I’d do without him.”

Anna sees a threat

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This best friend was also quick to deride Anna’s previous comments about Bailey and has generally been very protective of the woman.

This has led her to say things like, “You don’t have to defend her all the time, you don’t have to be with her and watching her. You can have a life too.”

The incident confirmed her suspicions

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Although the man was also quick to shut this kind of talk down, it’s also given the woman a sense of where some of Anna’s problem with her originate.

At this point, she suspects that Anna has feelings for him and sees her as competition, despite the fact that they’re all supposed to be just friends.

Too perceptive for her own good

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However, what the woman’s friends don’t know is that this best friend has confessed his feelings for her.

So the woman is also now wondering if Anna sensed these feelings as well and is grasping at any excuse she can find to tear the woman down.

Commenters become invested in her love life

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When the woman heard his confession, she told her best friend that she isn’t currently in the right head space to date someone and he said he’s willing to wait.

This led some users to ask if she reciprocated his feelings and advised being honest if she didn’t.

She meant exactly what she said

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To this, the woman replied that she shares his romantic feelings, but is facing the possibility of having to undergo surgery.

With that in mind, she’s decided that she wants to get her medical decisions in order before she commits to any relationship.

Such a wholesome part of the story

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The woman said she told the man she didn’t want to string him along or waste his time, but he told her she’s worth waiting for. And while some praised the intelligence in this decision, others encouraged her to go for him once everything’s settled.

In response, she wrote, “Thank you! I really want to, I’m just letting my insecurities get the best of me. I know we need to have another talk.”

The final word on the matter

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With everything cleared, the only further recommendation most commenters had was to block Anna’s family and enjoy the company of her real friends.

And in an update, she thanked everyone for their input and well-wishes. She also confirmed that she had done as advised and would have no further contact with Anna’s family.