When it comes to dating and attraction, pretty much anything goes. Everyone has their thing – or they know exactly what isn’t their thing – and it doesn’t matter how weird it might seem to some.
Which is all to say, even though there are some features and behaviors that society deems attractive across the board, they don’t work for everyone – and these 11 women are willing to admit just what things that would turn most people on have the opposite effect.
11. Blondes aren’t more fun.
“I have never thought someone was more attractive as a blonde than with darker hair. Some people are fine with either, but every time a blonde goes darker, I’m amazed at how much better they look.
And as someone else mentioned blondes are usually fake—totally fine to not be natural, do whatever you want—but it boggles my mind how many people constantly choose to go blonde.”
10. Too tall, no thanks.
“Everybody on dating apps says they are 6-2 or taller and I’m like…ok well we can never kiss each other standing up unless I have a box or you are going to fold in half lol”
9. She doesn’t care about your car.
“I know a lot of girls love a guy with a nice car but I hate it.
If he’s got an Audi I’m f**king outie”
8. Everyone wants a short girl.
“It’s a two way street on height-hate.
Tall women get rejected for being too giant! Or a suggestion of not feminine enough.
It’s embarrassing when men who claim to be 6ft show up to the date shorter than the woman who made no such claim of 6ftedness – whoops. Just own your height. It’s not changeable! I dont care how tall you are.”
7. Alpha attitudes are gross.
“In men: polo shirts are a nono. Judgemental or alpha attitudes are gross, too.
I hate guys that look like they smell like shower gel and laundry soap. I don’t know if that makes sense.”
6. How much can you lift, bro?
“I’ve found hardcore gym rats in general to be extremely boring. They don’t/can’t talk about anything except how much they lift, bro, and protein powder.
I’ll cheerfully exchange six-pack abs for love handles + interesting conversation.”
5. Not his cup of tea.
“for women: thigh gaps, or just being thin in general. they are pretty, don’t get me wrong, I understand why people would be attracted to them or how they are eye candy to many.
However, I love when women have chubby thighs, curves, just the healthy meaty girl look in general. it’s so pretty.”
4. It’s a serious addiction.
“… ‘gym rats’ usually have an addiction to the gym, sometimes to the point where not much else matters, whether it be their other hobbies, job, women, none of that matters to them, and most of what they look forward to is simply their next workout.
I know because I’ve been that guy for a small period of time and have known some other people like that, it is an addiction and like dating any other person with a serious addiction it isn’t usually that great.”
3. He can’t take them seriously.
“In Women: I’ll take flak, but I think fake eyelashes, nails, and the current heavy makeup trends look really awful.
I have a hard time taking a person who looks like that seriously, unless they’re performing.”
2. Meh on baby blues.
“I really love brown eyes so blue eyes, gray eyes, green eyes aren’t that attractive to me.
There’s this woman at my job who has these big blue eyes and she’ll just stare deeply at me when she talks. Creeps me out a little, like she’s Gollum bout to rock me over a ring.”
1. Cold fish.
“Big lips.
Enough to smooch on is nice but I don’t like the fish lips people end up with after even a little bit of filler.”
I’m not sure some of these are as conventionally attractive as people think.
What did you think about this list? Do any of these things turn you off? Is it hard to see how they could be offensive? Drop your thoughts on us in the comments!
