7. “Irrational”
Young, stupid and just out of college, I bought an engagement set and sprung it on my college girlfriend. Did not get the response I was expecting; she freaked, called me “irrational” and left.
Problem two: the department store where I bought the ring would not refund my money. I finally was able to negotiate a store credit; I exchanged the engagement set for a down sleeping bag. Frankly it was the better deal.
8. Harsh
I definitely wasn’t expecting it. She told me no, then informed me that she was moving away and didn’t want me to be part of her new life.
9. Young Love
So i was 22 and she was 24, we were madly in love and all of that jazz for about 2 years. I think me asking and her declining brought out all the superficiality in the relationship. We were in love. That was me financing her constant entertainment while she basically had no life outside of my bedroom. When she said no, I think we both really started to look a lot deeper at everything. I stopped paying for everything, stopped driving her around. She started leaving the house more and enrolled in college. These changes definitely made us much happier, but we both made the DUMB decision to keep on dating.
We lasted a whole 4 months before she cheated on me.
If you ever find a cheap ring in the Bolsa Chica wetlands, lemmie know. Should be close to the 1.
10. Very Traditional
I expected it, but here is why. This girl was very traditional. She expected me to ask her parents permission. So, I made a dinner date with them and we had the discussion. Her father, who is a difficult, but good man, asked me what I would do if she said no to me. I thought about it for a minute and then explained that I would leave. I wouldn’t wait forever for her. He was happy with my answer and granted his permission to ask her.
We had always loved Key West, so we planned a trip. It snowed the night of the flight, so at the last second we drove from New England. It was actually a pretty fun road trip. Romantic details aside, I asked her, she said yes and wore the ring for the next 4 days. When we got back, she gave me the ring back, said it wasn’t a good idea, because she didn’t want to disappoint her Ex…..
I took a few days to process. Packed my stuff up and left. Sold the ring for less than half of what I bought it for. We still speak once in awhile. She has always said it was the biggest mistake of her life, not keeping the ring. I have since moved on and found a wonderful woman, who I hope to spend the rest of my life with. Ok, lame story done. Thanks for listening!
11. LDR (long distance relationship)
I asked him about it, after nearly two years together and having gotten through the struggles of a LDR, and me moving 600 miles for him. He said “I don’t believe in marriage” “I don’t need to be married to love/spend the rest of my life with someone” I was hurt, but I was a stupid 22 year old in love, so I just said okay. Few months later, he broke up with me. We were “different places in life” apparently, and then two months after that, he’s dating someone new and they’re already living together/talking about getting married. I was completely heartbroken about it, even still recently. But after the tiring day I had yesterday of work on no sleep, I just realized I don’t care anymore. There’s no point in crying about him or missing him anymore, I see everything with a new clarity.
12. She sounds nice
I asked a woman I had known for a long time to marry me. Her reply: “I will never marry you. What if the man of my dreams comes a long later and sweeps me off my feet.”
That caused me to think long and hard about my relationship with her. I came to the realization that it was a one way relationship. If she needed money I helped her. If she wanted someone to go on a trip with her it was me. If she was having a bad day or a bad week or a bad year she turned to me for emotional support. But if I wanted a shoulder to cry on I had hers. For about 5 minutes before I was told something along the lines of my need to get over it and move on. I realized I let her have 51% of the vote on where we traveled, where we went out to and who we hung out with. She never made an effort to pay back a cent of the money I had given her over the years. I realized I was her emotional tampon. When her heart was bleeding, I was what she used to soak up the blood.
I stopped putting effort into that relationship. When she asked why I was distant I told her and she tried to blame it all on me. We have now gone our separate ways and we don’t talk anymore which is fine by me.
A year later she did get married. The guy she married filed for divorce 9 moths later. A mutual friend told me it was pretty much for the above reasons.
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