It can be really difficult to find out what someone of the opposite gender wants out of a relationship.
Hey, none of us are mind readers, okay?!?!
And today we’re going to hear from women on AskReddit about what they think men want out of relationships.
Let’s see what they had to say.
1. Touch me.
“Touch.
Not in a s**ual or creepy way, just like hugs or that unexpected tap on the arm or shoulder that shows familiarity and trust.”
2. Safety.
“Someone to confide in, to make them feel safe enough to express their feelings, a travel partner, someone to plan a life with, a designated date partner, bl**jobs, cuddling, and enthusiastic frequent wild s**.
There are so many expectations for men to adhere to, and so many seem to feel crushed under the weight of those expectations and presumptions.
I admit I wasn’t always a safe place to confide in, and that could do damage to men who are already tentative about opening up emotionally.”
3. Pretty simple.
“My man wants acceptance and security mostly.
He also wants to go to Costco every week and get a 12 pack of croissants and some Capri Suns.”
4. Wanted and appreciated.
“To make them feel wanted and appreciated in a world where expectations and standards can make people feel inadequate.”
5. The basics.
“Regular s** (not too crazy but not boring), someone to be vulnerable with privately, someone that doesn’t nag/mother but does make them a better person in everyday life, a fun friend to enjoy activities with, a reliable, trustworthy, and a loyal partner overall.”
6. Acceptance.
“I think my boyfriend wants comfort, companionship, to be boosted up and believed in, to feel like a man, to be appreciated, to have fun and laugh together, to feel accepted.”
7. Live out your dreams.
“My husband wants to build our own weird world together where we can live our dreams and make each other happy.
Everyone I dated before him just thought I was the perfect arm candy who would quit living my dreams and help them live out theirs.”
8. Trustworthy.
“I think men want for us to be less insecure especially about other women.
Trust, understanding, more logic and less emotionally driven responses.
Clearly conveying your feelings and intentions about something rather than beating around the bush.”
9. Are they mature?
“The mature ones will communicate their needs.
The rest want a mommy mixed with a therapist and s** worker.
Mature men have boundaries and clear respectful expectations and want their honesty reciprocated.”
10. Confused.
“I don’t even know anymore.
They say what they want and you give it to them and then they still are not happy and end the relationship cause they weren’t getting what they want.”
11. It depends.
“I guess it depends on what their “love language” is.
Everyone is different… some people just want to be validated by their partner, some people want their partner to cheer them on through life and be a sympathetic ear, some people want to be taken care of (food, fussing over them, etc.), some people want physical affection more and need to always be hugging or touching their partner in some way to feel validated.
The trick is either finding a partner who understands your own love language because they are similar or finding someone who is different but willing to learn how to be their best for you (this is a two-way street, though; you’ve got to be willing to put in the work as well).”
12. Be gentle.
“Intimacy or a gentle touch. A kiss on the cheek or holding hands.
Not quite the same but the intimacy of being close to a man doing things most people don’t see.
Watching him get dressed or sharing the bathroom when getting ready for work makes me feel so special and close to my partner.”
What do you think men really want in relationships?
Let us know in the comments.
We’d love to hear from you!
