I know how I would answer this question.
When I meet someone new and they IMMEDIATELY tell me their life story and about all of their problems, that’s a HUGE red flag for me.
You have to work up to that and get to know someone for a long time before you really let them into your world. At least that’s how I operate.
When someone does that right off the bat, I’m immediately turned off and usually it never goes anywhere from there. Maybe I’m wrong in that attitude, but it’s just the way I feel about it.
What do you think are big red flags when you meet someone new?
Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.
1. Too much, too soon.
“Too much information too quickly. People who divulge too much about themselves from the offset generally have poor boundary issues.
I speak from experience. I am a recovering poor boundary haver.”
2. Let’s begin…
“All they talk about is themselves and don’t ask a single thing about you.
I get the feeling that they just want to only talk about themselves, don’t care who it’s to and don’t really care about the person they are speaking to.”
3. Not very courteous.
“If they are unaware of people around them in a social sense.
Like, they don’t thank service staff or stand in the middle of crowded walkways and not move out of the way of others. Congratulations you have made friends with a toddler. This is not the biggest of red flags.
Just ones that have recently pissed me off.”
4. So annoying.
“When they bring up topics out of nowhere just so they can spout their opinions and not actually have a conversation.
It’s very telling about their personality.”
5. We don’t know each other…
“They try to become close friends with you immediately when you’ve hardly known each other at all.
They expect you to like them right away and don’t seem to give you time to get to know them.”
6. I hate when people say this.
“”Sorry, I have no filter!”
Oh, so you’re an asshole?
No thanks.”
7. So rude.
“When they just can’t stop using their phone for even five minutes to actually have a conversation.”
8. Gossipy.
“People who gossip or complain about mutual friends or coworkers.
You may feel special that they want to share this with you, and curious about what they are talking about, but they are likely saying the same type of things about you to everyone else.
It’s a similar situation with people who complain about their exes to you when you’re dating. You will probably become another person they complain about to the next person they are dating.”
9. I’m not a fan of this saying.
“If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.
Such a fucking narcissistic thing to say.”
10. Mind your words.
“Their word choice.
People who refer to women as bitches, men as dicks, or anyone by a derogatory term pertaining to them.
If we’re already friends and they use it jokingly/not meaningfully, the that’s different. But people complaining about “my bitch of an ex” are almost always people I don’t want to hang out with.”
11. Gonna make it big!
“Telling you all about their future plans on how they’ll become incredibly rich.
Also – asking you how you’re planning to “make it big one day” even if you’re perfectly content with where you’re at.”
12. Be polite.
“People that don’t say please and thank you. If I pay for dinner and you don’t say thank you.
I’m out.”
13. Beware of those folks.
“I have a long list of Ex’s who have said “I hate drama”.
Every single one that has said that has made up tons of shit for the sake of drama.”
14. No thanks.
“They make a point of letting you know that they are a “good Christian.””
15. Maybe it’s you?
“You immediately start hearing from them about all the time other people have hurt them, betrayed them, or otherwise been assholes to them.
If everyone you encounter is an asshole, chances are, you’re the asshole.”
How about you?
What are the big red flags you look out for when you meet new people?
Tell us what you think in the comments.
