15 People Share Things They Didn’t Learn About Their Spouses Until AFTER They Got Married

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People keep secrets. All of us.

And, while you think you might know everything about a person, especially if you marry them, you still might get thrown for a loop once in a while.

These AskReddit users certainly did. They shared the things they learned about their spouses AFTER they got married…let’s get started.

1. What are you eating?

“He likes to eat fish.

Somehow in our six years of dating, I got it into my head that he didn’t like to eat seafood. My parents would cook dinner and invite him, and I’d constantly tell my mom, “No, can you make something else? He doesn’t eat fish.”

My husband loves most seafood, with the singular, random exception of coconut shrimp. We joke about that to this day, that I unintentionally kept him from some of his favorite foods without so much as a conversation about it.

That’s a lighthearted answer. I’m sure there are many more. Eleven years in and we are still learning things about one another.”

2. A really good cleaner.

“He’s really good at doing household chores. Between us, I do all the cooking and he cleans up. He even makes sure the cutlery air dries on a cloth before wiping down the water stains. He developed a cleaning procedure to make sure the black marble kitchen top is spotless. He never ever leaves the dishes for the next day no matter how late the dinner ends (which can be really late when we entertain guests)

Also, he has a fondness for the latest household gadgets. The robotic vacuum cleaner was a really good buy – now he’s eyeing an electric lock so we will never need to carry our keys again.”

3. That’s a tough one.

“I discovered my wife is a hoarder, and doesn’t want to throw anything away. She’s gotten better over the years, but it’s still an issue.”

4. That’s very weird.

“My mom found out my dad was a compulsive liar when his twin sister didn’t show up to their wedding. When questioned about it he said she must have imagined the dozens of stories he had told about his twin sister. He is an only child.”

5. Lying for the hell of it.

“My ex told me his middle name was James. I saw afterwards on his driver’s license that it was John. He would lie about random stuff all the time, for no good reason.”

6. Forgot to mention that one.

“Not me, but my mom. She found out that my dad already had a kid when they got married.”

7. That’s kind of important.

“Not me, but my mom found out decades later my dad was married when he married her, so yeah, my dad’s a bigamist.”

8. Uh oh…

“I Didn’t Know He Would Prefer Sports to Sex. I was gobsmacked.

That he lives and breathes sports. I knew he liked sports when we were dating, but I didn’t realize that’s all he liked. I didn’t know he would rather watch football games on Sundays than go to family dinners or anywhere else. I didn’t realize he wouldn’t want to watch anything but sports on tv. I didn’t know that he would want to play or watch basketball/football/baseball/golf every waking moment.”

9. Crazy mother-in-law.

“How insane his mother is. He was clear that they had a difficult relationship when he was growing up and that he is really close with his dad because of her behavior. Since we’ve been married she’s been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, and her health professionals say it’s likely she has genetic degenerative neurology (Huntington’s).”

10. Just let that one go.

“My husband completely undresses from the waist down to go #2. He says he needs the freedom.”

11. Never heard of that.

“He has aphantasia. It’s a neurological condition where you can’t recall memories as pictures or create images in your mind. He cannot and has never been able to picture what he is reading in a book or say, conjure an image of a forest or person in his mind. He can’t imagine my face when I’m not there, though its not like he forgets it. I’m the total opposite and always picture everything in my mind- I’m an artist and my job would be hard if I couldn’t- so to me its like in a way he’s blind. Its just a different way of experiencing life I guess, but I was really sad for him when I found out.

We lived together before we got married so no surprises like how he kept his toothpaste or anything. (Horribly and weirdly squeezes from the middle. We have 2 separate tubes and it’s great lol).”

12. Money problems.

“I’m happily divorced now (almost 12 years now that I do the math), but after we got married I learned that she viewed her money as her money and my money as our money. Which was interesting because before we got married my money was our money and she didn’t have money to speak of. Not that I was even making good money. But after we got married she got a well paying job and suddenly her money was hers and mine wasn’t mine. It didn’t last long after that.”

13. Not very proactive.

“Unless asked specifically to do something around the house, wife won’t do it. With rare exceptions. Like she doesn’t get mad when l ask her to clean or do dishes or anything. She just doesn’t think about it.”

14. You can both relate.

“That my husband’s anxiety is as bad as my own. It’s actually refreshing because we know exactly how to help each other out when the other one’s anxiety gets bad.”

15. A complete U-Turn.

“She changed a whole lot after the wedding. From wanting kids to not, from hating her parents and the way they treated other people to siding with them (her mom was a nurse who constantly talked about patients negatively and her dad was an entitled business owner who tried to run people off the road constantly, awful road rage. They both were the type of “Christians” that give the whole religion a bad name.) She ended up remarrying one of my old college buddies shortly after the divorce.”