Have you ever been the bad person in a situation, but no one took the time to hear your side of things?

That sucks!

It’s unfair and everyone deserves to have their voice heard, right?

Here are some tales about people who realized they were “the bad person” in someone else’s story…and they want to tell their side…

AskReddit users sounded off about their personal stories.

1. Regrets, I’ve had a few…

“I once dated a girl who was too young for me (but still legal). She was persistent and I said no a few times. Finally I accepted and we dated for a few months. I wasn’t really into her and I had been contemplating breaking up with her for a few weeks and I had finally decided to break up with her that weekend.

On Friday, I met someone at a party and hooked up with her. When I met my girlfriend that Saturday to break up with her, she spontaneously told me that she loved me and wanted to be with me forever before I had the chance to tell her.

So I broke up with my girlfriend after cheating on her, right as she confessed her love to me. I still regret just about everything about that 4 month-period in my life.”

2. Still ashamed.

“One day when i’m not so ashamed of how things turn out I can publicly share this. but for my current sanity i would like to share it here

two years ago I got into a bad relationship. my now ex was very verbally a**sive, snooped my phone constantly, i couldn’t go anywhere without him, he spent my money recklessly while also bullying me into buying him things and constant beer trips. he drank four tall cans probably every night at least, and i’m not sure if that makes him an alcoholic but he was dr**k A LOT.

my family relationships were poor and he also used this to isolate me from them. I felt trapped but unable to leave a relationship that would make me homeless and completely broke.

desperate and starved for attention, I cheated on him with the first guy who gave me positive attention. I loved feeling important and like I mattered to someone else. Never before in my entire almost 30 years of living have I even entertained the idea of cheating on someone and here I am having full on affairs behind my boyfriends back. for MONTHS.

eventually he found out and told pretty much the entire world how much of a cheating slut I am and how I ruined our relationship. convinced my family that I am evil, I wrecked a perfectly great life, he thought I was The One. Even after all of that he still refused to break up with me- so i snapped, took the car(it was in my name) and ran away with the man i had been seeing behind his back.

To so many people I’m the bad guy, the villain, in this story, including my family and most of my old friends.

it’s been a long time and i’m still together with my current boyfriend but 2018-2020 feels like a depressed blur of life. I’m still trying to cope and feel like “Me” again.”

3. Very insecure

“My friend and I (both girls) had been single forever and it was something we bonded over. We were in different cities and she decided to visit. She brought her boyfriend over, presumably to show off.

I had gotten a makeover and therapy since the last time we’d met (I was the definition of sad girl prior to that), and she immediately became convinced I was trying to steal her boyfriend. I had no such intention.

But it started becoming a self fulfilling prophecy for her. Her bf and I had a lot in common which I kept trying to downplay, but she kept playing up. Like we spoke the same language, had several common friends, had the same food aversions, and we would be in the same city at the same time for work in a few months. She just kept growing more and more insecure. I heard her crying in the night.

She was staying over with me, and he with some family. She went out in the morning to get coffee, and I was taking a shower. The door was unlocked, I didn’t know that. I came out in my underwear and was applying moisturizer, when her boyfriend walks in, and then she walked in a minute later.

She ran out crying, he ran out after her, and I was mortally embarrassed.

Apparently that caused enough pain in the relationship that they broke up. So I’m very clearly the villain to her, but all of it was avoidable if she was less insecure.”

4. Obsession.

“Dad was d**d. Mom was crazy. We were poor. I didn’t go to normal high school and had basically been a shut-in for years. I was really poorly socialized when I moved into the dorms. I didn’t notice when the overwhelming feeling of affection I felt for her [edit: a girl in the dorms] crossed into obsession.

I convinced myself that if I didn’t literally stalk her or call or text her phone, that made it ok to send her a million pleading messages elsewhere. I was sure sure that we’d be perfect together that, when she tried to be my friend afterward–more than once–I ruined it by constantly pushing for a closer relationship.

Years later, when the pandemic started, I fell into old bad habits and messaged her until she politely told me to f**k off, which I really deserved.”

5. Sounds like you’re doing just fine.

“”Stole” his girl, married her. Had a child with her.

Let’s ignore the fact he drank his face off nightly and cheated.”

6. Quite a story.

“Former coworker convinced the company owner and his son that I was at her house and I got so dr**k that I crashed through one of her apartment walls and I refused to pay for it…

The truth was that years before this happened a bunch of us were hanging out, having a young 20-somethings house party.

She tried to take me to the bedroom and I turned her down because she was completely insane, in love with her baby daddy, and she’d f**ked so many of our co-workers that there’s no way she doesn’t have the Herp or something.

The owner refused to sell me the location I ran for 5 years. Not just ran, but when I took over it was nearly bankrupt. 5 years later I tripled revenue.

I only found a couple years ago when I asked the owner to grab lunch with me so we could chat, make amends, and that’s when he told me he may have made a mistake when he listened to the gossip.

Because of all this bulls**t I started my own thing and became a real competitor over the last couple years…We’ll, I was. We’ll see how much more the Rona will choose to f**k me.”

7. Called it off.

“I realized that I was about to become a passenger in my own life, so I called off the wedding. I never should have proposed, and I still feel bad about it, when I think about it.

But there’s no doubt, I was the villain.”

8. Doing your job.

“I’m a property manager for a mortgage
company.

I handle most of the evictions.

My first year I did 33, and it’s been steady for the last 10 years. I usually see people on the worst day of their lives, and it’s never easy for them.”

9. NOT a happy ending.

“So, I was in a long distance relationship, we lived about 8 hours apart from each other. It was a horrible relationship, because we were just horribly incompatible. So we had our one year anniversary, and he came to visit me.

We had a huge fight over the phone right before he left to visit me because he accused me of lying ( we chatted the evening before, and I told him I was going to sleep and good night, but he saw me online an hour later… ).

He had to turn off his phone for the drive because of low battery. I was just done with all his accusations of me being a horrible person, so I called my best friend in tears about what I should do. We had all these fights because he’s rather a controlling type in a relationship, and I really need freedom and trust.

So after speaking to my best friend, I realised, that I need to break up with him, because the relationship wasn’t healthy anymore for neither of us. So he arrived at my place, we sat down to talk, I told him while bawling my eyes out that I couldn’t do it anymore and I want to break up. So we did and he drove back home.

Only later I realised that he now hated me very much because from his point of view it looked like I made him drive 8 hours to my house, only to break up with him at our one year anniversary. Oops.”

10. Picking on the quiet kid.

“I was really mean to the quiet kid in my class. He was definitively odd, carrying around those little Minecraft action figures. He would say weird things and someone asked him a not-so-nice question.

They asked, ” Dean, would you shoot up a school.” He replied jokingly, sick of our s**t, that he would just target specific people. Looking back it was just dry sarcasm, but he hated me, so I got really scared. I told others what he said, and before long the Vice Principal had to come into our room to take him out, he came back.

He has been teased about it for a long time afterward. I’m starting to realize over this quarantine period that I was being the villain that was bullying him. Dean, if your reading this, I’m sorry.”

11. Haha. A funny one.

“I dropped my sister-in-law off and she crossed the road as I swung the car round. I was now driving alongside her, round a corner, so I rolled the window down and gave her a really lascivious wolf whistle… just as an old couple came round the corner.

They glared at me as I (in their eyes) s**ually harassed a stranger.”

12. Talking trash about the boss.

“I got fired because I was talking s**t about the boss behind his back.

He thought we were really good friends, almost best friends. We weren’t.

He was early-season Michael Scott, if MS was a 30 year old jock. He fired many of my friends for dumb reasons, or tortured them until they quit. For some reason he always took good care of me, but I just couldn’t take it any more.

Another guy, who already quit but was on 2 week notice, wrote to me on Slack to complain about the boss, and I replied with some pretty mean stuff. I should have known that the boss was reading all of our slack conversations, but whatever.

Getting fired was one of the best things that ever happened to me. To the boss, he had to fire his best friend in the office, and his best employee, because I was saying horrible things about him behind his back.

I regret that that’s how our relationship ended, but it had to end for my own sanity.”

13. Life lessons.

“Came to this realization with the help of a friend named Lucy:

Several years back, I ended up hooking up with a best friend of mine and we clicked like a perfect match. Dana and I spent a week together exploring each other’s bodies and just being super content. It was surreal. Nearing the end of the week, “the conversation” happened. “So what are we?”

We mutually agreed to keep things casual because we were in transitory periods of our lives.

Anyway, that fateful week culminated with my birthday on a Saturday.

Dana volunteered to throw me a party at her place and all of our friends were going to come – fantastic. My other friends invited me to their house to begin partying in the late afternoon. Dana gave me the okay to take off and she would set up on her own.

About 4 hours later, after pre-gaming with friends and attending a local mini-film fest viewing, I stumble into my party just as it is taking off around 9pm.

Since it is around Christmas time, we had agreed to do a pollyanna gift exchange. I start it off by handing a poorly made wooden boat to a buddy of mine and immediately proceed to the kitchen to take a shot of tequila. At that moment, I blacked out until about 1am.

The night is a blur. I remember dancing. A lot. Yacked a couple times but always bounced back. And then I f**ked up.

There is another girl, Karla. Karla and I had a brief stint fooling around and that was that – nothing more of it, just friends afterwards. Anyway, Karla hadn’t gotten me a gift and so she thought a little makeout sesh would suffice.

So it is nearing 1am and I am still dancing like a fool when Karla appears on front of me. I don’t know what it was, but she gave me those eyes and I knew exactly what she was thinking so we make out for a few minutes. I turn around to a crowd is staring at us from the kitchen. Me being of my rocker, shrug and keep dancing. Dana was not happy.

Shortly after, another friend of mine who I had been involved with in the past shows up and mentions grabbing a pizza. Next thing I know, a small group of us left the party, grabbed a pizza, and went back to my house where I passed the f**k out.

So I was a stupid, selfish, heartless idiot that totally betrayed a best friend I had recently gotten romantically involved with by:

leaving her to set up for my party by herself

showing up wasted to the party and immediately blacking out

making out with someone else in front of her, in her house, at the party she was throwing me

leaving to get pizza

not returning until morning

I was in denial of my guilt initially, but upon some enhanced reflection a week later, I realized how selfish and self-centered I had acted.

After a month apart from each other, Dana even tried to forgive me and we started a serious relationship together. But I had broken the trust already and there was no going back.

As years have passed, it becomes clearer and clearer how knuckleheaded my behavior was over the course of those 3-4 months. I truly was the villain from every angle. I know Dana never wants to hear from or see me again, but I wish I could tell her that I understand I did her wrong and I understand why she was so frustrated and upset with me.

Early 20s are the stuff of life lessons.”

14. Childhood friends.

“I was probably one of many villains in my childhood best friend’s story. If you ask her I ghosted her for a boy (I know she thinks this because I’m still in contact with her sister).

In reality she manipulated me and gaslit me for our entire childhood and teenage years. She attempted to isolate me and made me choose between my other friends and her constantly.

She would refuse to tell me what was wrong and then blamed me for not knowing why she was upset every time (it was always stupid things, like I was drawing a dragon, which she saw as childish and uncool). What finally made me walk away was when she got mad at me for wanting to spend a few days with my BF alone (we were dating long distance, I hadn’t seen him in over a year).

She picked a fight over it and I begged her to forgive me, which she refused and continued to yell at me over page-long tex messages. it caused my first ever major anxiety attack, which made her even more angry because I dared to not answer her for an hour while I was vomiting and trying to pull myself together(she had not answered my previous message for a week to “cool off” btw so it’s not like I left mid conversation).

I decided to not answer her for a while after another round of “I’m so sorry!” Messages, and when I looked back after a bit, I realised how toxic this s**t was.

I regret not trying to explain it to her, why I had to walk away, ghosting her was not the right thing to do, but I knew that if I tried to open the conversation again I wouldn’t walk away, I’d end up right back where I started and I just couldn’t do that again.

Her sister did ask about it a few years later and I didn’t have the heart to tell her everything that happened. sShe was aware of the manipulation and some of the s**tty behaviour though, she tried to warn me about it for years but she was my best friend and I trusted her, so I didn’t listen.”

15. Homewrecker!

“I was out drinking at a bar I went to regularly, met this couple who were playing darts. They were a nice, attractive couple. They were both kinda flirty with me that night but nothing happened. Went back to the bar another night, saw them there again.

The girl got very flirty, touching me lots. They’d had a couple drinks and said they were going to Uber home, I was sober and offered to drive them.

I said I was going to just drop them off, but the girl was adamant about me coming in to “meet the dogs.” So I go in, she starts getting a bit more physical, but her boyfriend was falling asleep on the couch, so she said maybe another night.

Next thing I hear, she’s crazy mad at me for “forcing myself” into their relationship, they broke up and she kicked him out, and she pretty much blamed me for the whole thing.”

16. The lost card.

“When I was in first grade my best friend came over to my house to play, and while there she lost her golden Charizard card. We looked for it, but still hasn’t found it by the time she had to go home. I kept looking, but it was just gone.

My mom made me put away all the toys we’d played with, and when everything was clean there was still no golden Charizard.

The next day at school she asked me for it, and I was like “it’s so weird, I never found it!”

Obviously, she didn’t believe me. I actually didn’t realize why, because I was six and was telling the truth, but it must’ve looked like I’d stolen it. So then she hated my guts and was mean to me forever, with periodic check ins where she’s ask me for the card and I’d just be like “no, seriously; I do not have your card!”

Eventually, her family was going to move away, and her father brought her to my door to ask me, one last time, to do the right thing and give her the card back. This did not make me magically have the card.

He stood on my doorstep and did the whole “disappointed adult” thing, and I still did not have the card. He asked to speak to my parents, who then grilled me about it, and I still, predictably, did not have the card.

Then we moved, and the entire house was packed, and we still did not find the card. My theories are either that it fell between some floor boards or something, or that it somehow got from her pocket into the lining of her coat.”

17. Not the result you wanted.

“Once my wife and I were waiting at an intersection, and there was a panhandler sitting on an overturned bucket holding a sign asking for change. I had a dollar and some change in my pocket, so I gave it to my wife and said “give this to him”. She rolled down the window and held the money out to the guy, but he just sat there and said “just throw it to me”.

My wife said “huh?” And he said, “I don’t feel like getting up, just toss it to me.” So, my wife took all the coins and stacked them up and wrapped the dollar bill around them in an attempt to make a package that could be tossed.

Then, she tossed the package at the guy, and as he held out his hand to catch it, the package f**king exploded and coins went flying all around him and the dollar blew away. He just sat there and shrugged at my wife, and the light turned green so I started to drive in to the intersection.

Then, in the rearview mirror I see that the lady in the car behind me had gotten out and was collecting the coins off the ground, handed them to the panhandler, and then gave him a “you poor soul” hug.

I realized later that to her it looked like we had callously thrown our spare change at this poor panhandler who had put his hand up to defend himself, sending change flying everywhere. I imagine she thought we were cackling with glee, Cruella deVille style, as we sped off after our disgraceful act. And she felt the need to comfort him after he had been treated so badly.

Little did she know the guy was just a lazy s**t who couldn’t be bothered to get off his bucket.”

18. Broke her heart.

“When I was in elementary school there was a girl who copied everything I did. From what I would wear or paint in art class and even down to the way I organized my desk. One time she heard my friend and I talking about going to the neighborhood playground to hang out and she just showed up. Neither I nor my friend really liked her so we said hi but kept playing without her.

After she tried to play with us multiple times my friend and I just decided to leave because we didn’t want to play with her. I thought she was trying to take my identity and my friends by becoming me and it made me really angry. So I wasn’t very nice to her. I wouldn’t play with her at recess, I didn’t want to sit next to her at lunch and when she asked me to come over and play I would always say no.

Obviously, she was just insecure and wanted to be friends but being 10 I didn’t understand that. During high school I realized what had been going on reached out to her. We talked about it and we both explained our sides of what we were thinking at the time. I was an a** but she understood how I could feel that way. I apologized and we both went on with our lives.

Even if she did forgive me, I was the villain. If it helps I try very hard to make sure I’m trying to understand where people are coming from because of this.”

19. Had to go your own way.

“Probably when I broke up with my girlfriend that I started dating in high school. We had made some plans about me going into the military or joining the police force so I could provide for us once we got married.

Then I was like “yeah no I don’t want to do any of that, I’m 19″ and I left. She was pregnant by another man less than a year later.”

20. I thought we were friends…

“In junior school there was a girl I thought was my friend and we’d have fun bantering with each other. Until one day she was crying and someone else told me she was scared of me and considered me a bully.

It broke my heart because I sincerely thought we were just having fun together and I never would have seriously bullied her about anything. Our relationship was never the same even though I tried apologising and explaining my side.”

21. A rude thing to say.

“Back in 9th grade we had this math teacher. He was somewhat inexperienced in teaching but tried hard to teach us. I, being an a**hole, always spoke out and used to pass mean comments. He tried to make the class understand every topic but i and few of my friends always gave him hard time by making noises and mean comments.

One day in class while he was struggling to solve a wrong equation or something (i cant remember exactly) i said something about him being incompetent and cant teach us.

I didn’t bother thinking about it since but years later my friend mentioned it and i realized how much of an a**hole i had been with him.

He had probably just started teaching then and couldn’t handle the class properly and was trying as hard as he could.”

22. About my ex…

“I guess it’s what happened with my ex, I fell in love with him hard and he realised he didn’t love me so he broke up with me but really liked me and wanted to stay friends. So I remained his friend for two months but my feelings got so out of control I started hounding him to get back with me.

He got sick of this and cut me off. I just went ballistic, and would turn up at his house and cry and beg to speak to him, I’d text non stop. I was pure nice girl. I eventually became suicidal and was hospitalised a few times and they suggested I had borderline personality disorder. In the end it turned out I didn’t and we still don’t know why I ended up like that, but I effectively stalked him for a year.

Sending him a text on a burner number would ease my anxiety for a moment, even though it caused him suffering. In the end he got a restraining order out on me and I came to my senses and left him alone. I hate myself for what I did to him and still wonder what snapped in my brain to make me act like that.

If you’re out there Lance I am very sorry and I promise I am still working on myself to get better.”

23. Just like a rom-com.

“This might not exactly be the point of this question but still….

Ok so I was in a relationship with someone for around 11 months and we were on a very rough patch ( this was when I was 16, so basically stupid arguments). She had a guy best friend that I didn’t think much off.

So we were ‘on a break’ and she calls him and tells him that our relationship is not going well. Turns out he has liked her since around 3 years and never had the guts to tell her. He tells her everything how he had feelings for her, how he was jealous that I asked her out first and that he still likes her. So she starts to flirt with him and soon thereafter our relationship ends.

So once I find this all out and they start officially dating (like 10 days after it ends), I lash out at this guy and we have a nasty back and fourth. After which I realize…

I am the villain in a romcom in which the other guy is the protagonist.”

24. At least you realize it now.

“I was an a**hole. Most of these come from my high school years. Me thinking I’m being funny, getting laughs, but not realizing i was being a piece of s**t to others at times.

Some underclassmen would try to hang around my friend group, but they annoyed the s**t out of us so I’d be a d**khead, buddies would laugh but I’d think back years later and realize what i was doing was bullying.

I’ve since apologized if i ever saw them or talked to them again. It may sound dumb but in my youth i never thought about how they’re their own person going through their own situations and maybe just wanted a friend.”

25. Former bully.

“I bullied a girl in high school. Truth was, I was so jealous of how smart and talented she was and I was really dumb. I once told the entire class that she liked someone (who was in the class) while she was in the toilet.

When she came back, everyone laughed. That was in year 7. In year 10, I apologized to her and she accepted my apology but to this day, still feel f**ked up about it. I recently learned she’s doing really well and I’m happy for her.

I’m the kind of person to stop bullying if I saw it, like if I walked past a school and witnessed it in the playground or something.”

26. A little s**t.

“I was very rude to a specific teacher as a kid (6th grade.) Said some horrible things to this sweet old lady just because she was a bit strict on rules. I was in a rebellious “f**k you I won’t do what you tell me even though you are a reasonable adult” phase.

I am sure that she thought I was the worst little sh**t.

If it were possible, I would apologize in a heartbeat.”

27. You’re being sued.

“I broke up with my boyfriend who was incredibly in love with me (2 year relationship in high school) and a year later my family sued him for 6 digits.

So during our relationship, we got into a really severe car accident. He was at fault, I ended up in the ICU for several days and have permanent organ damage (as of yet hasn’t affected my quality of life). It was really, really bad.

He was uninjured and incredibly upset over it, really sweet and genuinely good guy. I recovered, and a few months later I broke up with him for other reasons.

Well, his insurance didn’t pay my very expensive medical bills. My parents were struggling and they ended up suing his family’s insurance for the absolute maximum that the insurance would be required to pay without making his family have to pay out of pocket. His insurance would provide their lawyer.

His family was very poor and we didn’t want to punish them, we just wanted his insurance to pay for my bills. We refused to sue for more than that maximum despite our lawyer telling us we could’ve won more money.

The lawsuit unfortunately can’t say we were suing his insurance company, and we weren’t allowed to contact them. So they get served papers telling them his ex girlfriend was suing for a helluva lot of money they didn’t have.

Well. We won. I got a couple thousand dollars in pain and suffering that went towards my rent, the rest of the money was used for medical and legal bills.”

28. Not cool.

“I farted in a crowded elevator and tried to cough at the same time to cover up the noise but did not time it well.”

29. Let’s end with this long tale.

“Ok so this weird misunderstanding happened when I was visiting the Netherlands. I’d just bought a sandwich from one of the bakeries and was sitting by the canal eating it when this massive duck jumps out the water and goes straight towards me with its eyes fixed on my sandwich.

I’m kinda worried its gonna try to grab it off me so I wave my foot in it’s direction to try to ward it off. The duck stops at my feet and just sits there staring at me while I eat. “Ok, whatever, its just going to sit there and not bother me” I think, so I just ignore it and continue eating my sandwich.

Not long after this a women approaches me and speaks to me in dutch. I look at her blankly and she keeps speaking so I say “Sorry, I don’t understand”. She switches to broken English and starts saying “You make yourself big, you kick the duck”. I continue to stare blankly so she repeats herself a few more times.

I’m desperately trying to figure out what the hell she’s talking about. Eventually it dawns on me. She’s seen that the duck wants my sandwich, and she’s trying to tell me how to make it go away. The duck isn’t bothering me, and I really don’t want to kick it, so I just smile and “Right ok”.

But this d**n woman won’t leave. She keeps standing there staring at me. So I sigh, comically puff up my chest to ‘make myself big’, look at the duck, and give it a small nudge with my foot.

Nothing happens. The duck doesn’t even react. It’s still standing in the same place. At this point the women goes f**king ballistic. She starts yelling at me to “f**k off back to my own country”, she “hopes I choke on my sandwich” and even says she’s going to throw me in the canal and makes a motion towards me. I’m just sitting staring at her in utter disbelief.

After she leaves I’m kind of in shock and trying to process what happened. I eventually realize that from her perspective it looked like I’d kicked the duck when I’d waved my foot at it, and she was trying to call me out on it.

To which I responded by politely smiling and then ‘kicking’ the duck again while puffing up my chest to take the p**s out of her. She’s probably still telling people about the a**hole animal a**ser foreigner.”

Wow…like I said, everyone deserves to be heard…

Has this ever happened to you?

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