Life can be rough when you have one food intolerances, and for people unfortunate enough to end up with several, gatherings can be a big challenge.
This woman has some good support from some of her family members, like her mom who made sure she would have cake to eat at a birthday party, but everyone else kind of seems like they suck.
My brother Martin (M 36) and his wife Lea (F 32) have a daughter (F 5) Ivy. I have huge problem with food, I am lactose and gluten intolerant and also I am on diet because I have diabetes.
Well, we celebrated my grandpa’s (M 75) b-day last weekend and the party included small family circle about 12 people. My grandma cooked lunch and I baked cake and prepared some snack. I also prepared small plate of food for myself and my mum brought me one portion gluten/lactose/sugar free cake.
While the party was going on, her five-year-old niece got interested in OPs plate, but she quickly explained why she couldn’t share it and all was well.
So we had a lunch and we put the snack on the table and started to cut the cake and I set mine on plate aside. We were talking laughing and Ivy was running around the table and picking everything she wanted.
She was picking from my plate of stuff suitable for me, so I took it aside and where she couldn’t reach it. She forgot it quite quickly.
When the girl noticed a pretty rose on OPs piece of cake – that couldn’t be removed, we learn in an edit – she asked again and OP again refused.
This time she didn’t take it well and her sister acted like OP was being ridiculous and mean.
Well the problem started when she noticed my cake has small rose on the top. So she took a fork and started to eat it. I told her I can cut her her own piece of cake from my grandpa’s cake but she wanted mine.
I told her she cannot have it and she run away crying and went to Lea. Lea came to me and ask me if I could give her the cake and I explained why I couldn’t do it.
OP came back from a bathroom break to find her brother feeding her one piece of cake to her niece, which upset OP.
Her brother and sister said she’s the one being stupid and ruining the party.
I went to the toilet and when I came back I found Ivy sitting on my brother’s lap and him feeding her my cake. I was fuming and told him, she ate my only piece of cake and I have almost nothing left. I was pissed because I told them no and left to the kitchen.
Lea followed me and told me to stop making drama out of piece of cake and that I m fucking up the party. She also told me she saw me taking my plate away from Ivy and that I am selfish jerk.
My mum defended me, but my brother told me I am an asshole because Ivy is small child. So AITA?
OP’s mother stood up for her, at least, but what does Reddit think? Let’s find out!
First off, almost everyone agrees that five is far old enough to understand what’s going on and why she’s being denied the cake.
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Basically, it’s her brother and sister who aren’t doing a very good job raising the little girl; she’s doing fine.
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They definitely missed an opportunity for a teachable moment.
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It seems crazy that OP and her mom were the only ones who thought the kiddo was being over-indulged.
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The aunt is actually the only one trying to set the girl up for success.
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How would you have handled this as a parent?
Let’s hash out the options in the comments!
