She Refuses to Give the Code to Her Safe to Her Partner. Is She Wrong?

How close do you have to be to someone before you give them a code?

I’m talking about an ATM code or maybe even the code to your safe.

Hmmmm…it’s quite a conundrum, don’t you think?

Check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page and see if you think this woman acted like an a**hole.

AITA for refusing to give my partner the code to my safe?

“I 32(f) and a Gemologist, I spend my days in the lab testing and identifying stones.

From the nature of my work I also have a large and valuable collection of jewellery but also gem specimens that I keep in a safe I specifically bought and had installed to keep them safe. I also have a second smaller safe for keeping important documents like passports.

I own my home and my boyfriend (33m) of 2 years recently moved in as he was renting before. I gave him the code to the smaller safe so he could put valuables in it, but he also wants the code for my gem safe. Not to put anything in it, but he says because we are living together now I should trust him and give him the code.

I’ve said no because he has no reason to open the safe as the only thing it’s used for is storing my collection, he’s said he has no interest in my gem collection, doesn’t want to look at them, but still wants the code to access them.

This is causing tension because he says I should give it to him as a show of trust, and I said no, because he literally has no reason to go in there so he doesn’t need the code. This is a 6 figure collection so I’m not being difficult over a few little gems here. I am the only one who knows the code.

So Reddit am I being TA here?”