It’s no secret that chivalry is…well, if not dead, it’s certainly lacking. As a woman who has been pregnant twice in the past three years, I can confirm that people pretend not to notice unless they want to a) insult your weight or b) ask questions that are none of their business.
I don’t have to take public transportation on a regular basis, so I can’t really complain about having to squeeze into a tiny subway car seat sporting a giant, uncomfortable belly and swollen legs while perfectly normal-sized people refuse to make room. Based on this story — and the responses from others — I should count my blessings.
Twitter user Brydie Lee-Kennedy, an 8-months-pregnant woman, had that misfortune, and did not hesitate to share her tale of woe on the public forum.
Basically, there was one seat left, she was exhausted and carrying extra weight, and some guy thought his bag (and hand) needed the space more than she did. So, she sat on his hand and his bag, which apparently he still refused to move so they spent the rest of the ride in some sort of silent standoff.
Plenty of other women chimed in to share their stories of similar occurrences. All of them are my heroes, and braver than I would have been in a similar situation, though the discomfort caused by late pregnancy often causes one to lose one’s filter.
This one, though, is my favorite. It honestly needs to be a scene in a movie.
Long story short? Don’t be stupid, rude and obtuse. Pay attention to the people around you who aren’t having the best of days.
And get off your ass if a giant pregnant woman is standing near you.