Relationships are built on trust (or at least that’s what people say about good relationships anyway). So what would you do if you found out your partner had been keeping a huge secret from you? One that involved millions of dollars?
One woman wants to know how to feel after learning that her boyfriend of three years had been lying about his salary and also had millions of dollars in inheritance money. She took to Reddit for some advice. The original post was removed, so here’s the text.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and we live together. He told me he made 90k, which is around what I make. We split most stuff evenly. Yesterday he said he had something to tell me and said that he actually makes 150k, and also has millions in inheritance.
Now that doesn’t in it of itself change how I feel about him and I would still split stuff equally. But the fact he hid something so big for 3 years? It made me pretty upset that he didn’t trust me even after moving in together. I told him this and he said I was overreacting and that it was just to protect himself. I didn’t talk to him today until dinner and he told me again that I’m overreacting and that it’s not a big deal.
AITA? (Am I the As*hole?)
Well, that’s a pretty shocking revelation. What would cause someone to lie about something like that or withhold information?
The people of Reddit were pretty split on this one. The top comment came from someone who explained that the boyfriend’s actions make perfect sense:
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But others were quick to point out that the boyfriend’s behavior went above and beyond simply waiting to see if the woman was trustworthy:
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And others pointed out that three years is a long time to withhold this information:
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People took issue with the lying part of the story:
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Others tried to reframe the conversation by playing out a scenario in which he lied about being in debt, which is a good point:
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No matter how they feel about money and cohabitation, it seems that many people on Reddit agree that lying to your partner is one of the worst possible relationship sins you can commit.
Where do you fall on this issue? Do you think the boyfriend had a right to lie about his salary, or was he in the wrong?
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