Woman Refused to Be an Organ Donor. Is She a Jerk?

I personally believe that we should all be organ donors after we kick the bucket, but when happens when someone asks you to donate an organ while you’re still alive?

And, on top of that, what if you really don’t like the person? At all?

Take a look at this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page to see what went down in this interesting story…

AITA for replying “Absolutely f**king not” when I was asked to consider being an organ donor?

“I (25F) moved back in with my mother during the pandemic to help her with something.

I’m in the process of finding my own place now that she’s better, but still live with her right now, but I must emphasize that I didn’t move in because of financial hardship and she needed me more than I needed her.

Mom (56f) has a friend, Mel (45f) with a chronic disease. Mel and I have never got along, not since the first time we met when she showed up to my mom’s house dating a man half her age and I asked if he was her son, and then she forced my mom to make me apologize to her in public. Mel is a deeply insecure woman who pretty much has no friends other than my mother.

Mel is always bugging my mom to throw her parties, trying to get my mom to drive her places when she’s not feeling well and trying to invite herself over my mom’s place because she’s lonely. I don’t like Mel, and I avoid her; I avoided her when I was younger, didn’t even pay any mind to her when I became an adult and moved out, but unfortunately since I’m with my mom she’s also back in my life.

Still, the only times I really hear about Mel is when my mom is done talking to her over the phone and she then subsequently whines to me about how draining it is to listen to Mel’s problems.

It was quite a surprise to me when I came home from a day out to find Mel in my mom’s house sobbing. Before I could ask what’s up, mom told me that Mel’s chronic disease has progressed to the point where she may need new organs.

I get it, that’s rough, and I don’t begrudge Mel for coming to my mom for support even if I personally didn’t want to host her. But without skipping a beat, Mel asked if I could get tested to see if I could donate an organ to her.

And just as quickly as Mel said that to me, I loudly responded “Absolutely f**king not!” Mom yelled at me, Mel started crying, and I just turned right around and left. I got home later in the day and my mom was fuming at me and said I owed Mel an apology.

I told my mom that asking for one of my f**king organs is more invasive than asking to f**k me. Mom explains that Mel was very distraught by the news and I should cut her some slack, and I said that I cut her slack by leaving and giving her space but owed her no apology.

Was I the a**hole for loudly refusing to get tested to donate an organ to someone I can’t stand?”

Take a look at what Reddit users had to say about this.

One reader said that while the reaction may have been a bit harsh, this woman is not an a**hole.

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Another person agreed that she wasn’t wrong in this situation and said that that is a very invasive question to ask someone.

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This individual argued that the woman who asked about the organ donation was out of line, but the person who wrote the post also showed no tact in this situation.

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And lastly, this reader said that the woman who wrote the post is not to blame at all and that she showed exactly as much tact as the woman who asked about the organ donation.