You can spot ’em from a mile away…
I’m talking about bad parents who clearly aren’t doing a bang-up job raising their kiddos!
And today we’re going to hear from AskReddit users about the signs you should be looking out for.
Let’s take a look!
1. There you go.
“Using your kid as therapy and then getting upset when they have issues regulating their emotions.”
2. No contact.
“When your adult children don’t talk to you.
Yeah, it took me a while to understand that me wanting to go no contact with my parents is a failure on their part, not mine.”
3. Gross.
“Zero interest in the kid.
Doesn’t care what they do or what happens to them as long as they don’t inconvenience them.”
4. Invalidated.
“Invalidating your child’s feelings, struggles, and/or mental illness in favor of “you don’t know what struggling really is” or some form of “back in my day” or “you kids are so weak”.
You have just robbed your child of support, told them their feelings do not matter, and informed them that you are not a safe person to confide in.”
5. Sorry about that.
“Parents who can’t apologize to a child.
It’s ok to have human emotions and moment to be triggered or struggling and lash out or be wrong but for the love of all things good APOLOGIZE AND CHANGE.”
6. Terrible.
“Your own children being afraid of you.
No child should be afraid of the person that looks after them nearly 24/7.”
7. Kind of sad.
“Your kids never visiting once they move out or go to college.
Both of my parents got separated this year and both of them will be enjoying Christmas alone.
They have truly reaped what they have sown.”
8. Non-stop yelling.
“Getting yelled at for every little thing.
I once got yelled at and falsely accused of doing something because I said “no” the wrong way.
I said no but apparently in order to say no properly you need to wait a couple seconds before replying because you don’t have enough time to analyze the situation.”
9. Wow.
“Saying things like “you’re such a disappointment”, “I wish I had a daughter instead”, “you ruined my and you’re mother’s s** life”.
This is stuff I heard for years.”
10. Sure…
“”You’re the reason I’m stuck with your father !”
Sure mom, sure…”
11. Look familiar?
“The Narcissist’s Prayer.
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.”
12. Just own it.
“Never saying you’re sorry to your kid.
My mom has extreme accountability issues. Nothing is ever her fault. I’m 43M, and after therapy this year I finally confronted her about the abuse I suffered as a kid – emotional from her, and physical from my dad.
You know what she told me? That my behaviour was the reason she and dad had marital problems, and if I had just tried to be a better kid, the whole family could have been happier.
I’m very minimal contact with her for so, so many reasons.”
13. Picking and choosing.
“Only caring for the child when they do what you want them to do.
For example, if they play the sport you want them to play.”
Now it’s your turn!
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Do it in the comments!
