I feel like we talk a lot on the internet about the red flags of immaturity in men. They get a bad rap for being subpar husbands, dads who are half paying attention, and dudes who depend on feigned incompetence to get through life, but what about the flip side of the coin?
There are certainly women out there who are taking longer than the average to mature, and surely men who want to know what to avoid, right?
So, without further ado, let’s talk about the red flags that we often see in immature women!
17. A total Karen.
Excuse me but you will address me by my husbands rank, THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!
Once when I was a receptionist I was trying to obtain a Tricare patient’s insurance info. I asked if her husband was the one serving or if it was her (to know which name to bill it under).
She replied “um, the spouse serves too.” Bi*%h just tell me whose insurance it is, I don’t care about your milso insecurities!
16. Communication is key.
Not communicating when you do or don’t want something and then holding resentments about it later.
To people lamenting that they are like this, I’ve been through this journey myself and know how deep rooted this behavior is. Still working on it myself but feel free to DM to chat about some tips and strategies.
15. Probably toxic.
Making unnecessary drama and stating you don’t like drama. Then, you’re probably toxic and your entire group of friends are just like you.
ou never left high school mentally.
14. She just can’t see it.
She’s always going on about cutting out all the drama and toxicity from her life. Hint: She’s the drama and toxicity.
I had to end a friendship because she was like this. In the last 7 years of knowing her, I have seen her end a dozen friendships and get into a dozen complications at work regarding her getting into fights with her colleagues, and, from her POV, she was never wrong; the other girls were always jealous of her, didn’t appreciate her, were bad friends, etc.
When we ended our friendship (I have never had to verbally end a friendship in my life until her), she pointed out all of my flaws, which I apologized for, and when I pointed out her issues and how they negatively affected me, she didn’t apologize one time, and instead gaslighted me. Best thing I ever did was to walk away from that.
Also, women who don’t listen to you and only want to hear themselves talk and use you as a sound board. Just run away. You will forever be their friend that they vent to, the friend who never has it worse than them, never has experienced what they experienced, and they don’t care about what is going on in your life because they only care about their own lives. Run away. They will not be there for you emotionally.
13. A lack of empathy.
Lack of empathy and listening skills.
Thinking you are “less of a man” for being emotionally vulnerable and expressing your feelings, and later weaponizing these insecurities.
12. It’s never her fault.
And any relationship failure isn’t her fault and blames the other party. “If a man knows your worth, he will treat you right” kind of Instagram stories.
“If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best”
Swipe left
Block
Burn phone
Take shower
11. That you can never pass.
When they do constant “tests” to see how you will react.
This is what my ex did. She claims the reason she cheated was to see how much I’d fight for her. B*%ch we’re almost 30 years old & you wanna play games with our relationship?
10. Everything is a competition.
Many of my mom friends compete with their own daughters. Talent, success, male affection.
It’s all f’ing disgusting.
9. Playing the victim.
Her playing the victim in every scenario.
I cannot think of a single time where my ex took any responsibility for things going wrong in her life or in other people’s lives as a result of her actions. Literally not one single time.
It wasn’t until a few years later that I realized she never admitted to anything being her fault, the blame was always on someone or something else.
8. No subtweeting, please.
when instead of communicating she makes a status about you or tweet 🚩 immediately cut off
Once dated someone that announced to her Twitter that we had broken up before I even had the chance to get my stuff to the car lol.
7. No rules for her.
Thinks she shouldn’t have to respect your boundaries because she’s a woman.
My buddy used to see a woman that would deliberately hit men because she expected to never be hit back. Boy was she surprised one day when she hit a guy and he clocked her right back. Of course she then expected my friend to fight the guy and was offended when he told her thay she deserved it for smacking him over something trivial.
They didn’t last very long. She tried the same shit with my sisters boyfriend and then was shocked when my sister showed her the floor. Apparently it also didn’t occur too her that other women could also hit her.
6. To build herself up.
When the only way she can get ahead is by bringing you down.
Last woman I dated was like this. She would constantly talk down to me and call me not smart.
I was in college for a bachelors in Aviation Management and she was getting her Masters in Organic Chemistry. I would ask about her studies as I found green chemistry interesting, but she’d answer me in a really degrading manner every time.
Took time to piece it together, but I got out of that mess before it took off.
5. They’re always right.
A big one for me are women who assume they’re right in every argument, and refuse to acknowledge the other person’s point of view, even when proven wrong.
I dated a girl like this, she accused me of something, we got in a fight, I objectively proved her wrong, and she pulled the “I’m just going to take off my shirt and see if you’re still angry” thing.
No, I don’t want sex, I want you to admit you were in the wrong, apologize, acknowledge you understand why it made me upset, and then maybe sex.
4. No drama, please.
If she still gets into petty drama as an adult.
“Oh I hate drama” but is somehow always involved in any drama in her circle of friends.
3. She can’t be wrong.
My best friend started dating this girl who would often use incorrect words when talking. Usually “egg corn” kind of stuff. He would correct her usually, and politely. One time they were discussing what to do the next day and she said “Let’s dock it.”
He was like “Do you mean ‘put it on the docket’?”
“Nope. I mean dock it. It means make a list.”
He pulled up “docket” in the dictionary and showed her. Convinced that she couldn’t possibly be wrong and the he was f**king with her, she got up and said “I don’t appreciate you doing this to me. And I’m leaving.”
He replied “I guess I’ll take you off the docket.”
2. A weird idea of fun.
Putting others down for fun.
One of my friends started dating a girl and he brought her to dinner with us. She attached herself to me because I was the only girl in the group. She spent the entire night commenting negatively on the clothes and appearance of every single person we passed and thinking she was so clever for it.
Sorry, but I’m in my thirties and don’t feel like hanging out with someone who has the mentality of a middle schooler.
1. Her feelings are a guessing game.
Doesn’t communicate feelings while expecting me to magically know how she’s feeling, keeps quiet about misunderstandings and doesn’t even give me the chance to resolve it so I keep doing it and it eventually becomes the reason why she ghosts me.
I met my best friend last August, and it’s going really well because she’s ACTUALLY capable of telling me the moment I say or do something she didn’t like, so I’m able to immediately apologize and change my behavior.
I have to say I agree with these, and it’s just as important for women to be mature as men, if you’re talking about relationships and other adult things.
What other red flags have you seen in immature women? If they’re not on this list, drop them in the comments!
