If there’s one thing I’ve learned for sure as I’ve aged, it’s that I just have no room in my life for people who don’t show me with their actions that they deserve to be there. And people who are clinically unable to be your friend definitely shouldn’t have a place in your world.
Narcissists are people who tend to overvalue themselves at the expense of others while psychopaths habitually take advantage of others, be it physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, or financially – two types of people you definitely want to avoid if at all possible. Narcissists tend to overvalue themselves at the expense of others. Psychopaths habitually take advantage of others physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, or financially
If you’re wondering how to easily spot people like narcissists and with other psychopathic personality disorders, well, it’s not easy – but below are some tips that might be enough to let you know that it’s time to run the other way (fast).
5. No, you’re not having deja-vu. You’ve heard this before.
People with both types of personality disorders will tell the same extremely personal story over and over again – usually one that’s self-serving or boastful – as if they’ve rehearsed it (and it might be a total lie).
4. They want to get close really fast.
If you’re a narcissist or a psychopath, you might discuss things like financial investments, financial drama, medical issues, or the like minutes after meeting someone.
But beware – these are tactics to encourage fast intimacy and bonding, because the faster they draw you in, the sooner they can begin to manipulate you.
3. The ruse of the “special” favor.
This is actually one of the criteria for diagnosing narcissistic personality disorder – these people are more likely to ask for a “special” favor, not because they need it, but because they feel entitled to your time and effort.
Like, you’re lucky to receive such a unique and special request from such a person!
Don’t give in – if you do, the next ask will be bigger, and so on.
2. All or nothing approach to friendship.
It won’t hurt you to learn too much about a person right away (it’s weird, sure, but not harmful), but if they expect the same from you, they’re looking to gain insight they could use to manipulate you in the future.
It’s a way to gain your trust, as well.
If they don’t ask you anything about yourself, they’re trying to hook you on their wild-and-crazy stories.
1. Don’t take this the wrong way…
Narcissists and psychopaths will often pay you a compliment that, upon further reflection, insults other people. They’re an attempt to throw you off-balance and test whether you’ll stand up for yourself or let them walk all over you.
I’ve definitely run into a few of these in my day – sadly! It’s never too late to do a friend purge!
How do you decide who to keep around and who has overstayed their welcome in your life? Share your own tips for spotting the bad apples in the comments!