She Told Her Husband to Stay With His Family While He’s Unemployed. Is She Wrong?

It’s gotta be a tough situation when one person in a relationship works and the other one doesn’t have a job.

And it can lead to some serious complications, as you’re about to see in this post that a woman shared to the “Am I the A**hole?” page on Reddit.

Read on to see if you think she’s acting like a jerk for what she said to her husband.

AITA for asking my husband to stay with his family while he’s unemployed?

“My husband (32) and I (30) have been married for just over a year now and things couldn’t be rockier.

I have a good job and make a decent amount of money, whereas my husband made not as much as me. Due to this, and the fact he was still living with his parents when we got married, we decided he would move in with me and I would continue to pay the rent and bills as long as he put money toward other things we may need as a couple. My name is the only one on the lease.

However, once we got married, he started to cut down on his work hours without saying anything first. He gave the explanation that I made plenty of money for the both of us so he could just work part time and do the work around the house while I was the main breadwinner. I was fine with this, a little upset that he had just assumed this would be okay but I didn’t say anything as this felt fair.

He did do some work around the house initially, but spent the majority of his time going out to the bar, playing video games, etc. to the point where I was the one both working and doing the cooking, cleaning and other household chores.

My husband told me he was laid off two months ago for reasons out of his control. I assumed in this time that he would begin job hunting, and I began to pay for everything.

While I do earn a decent amount of money, it’s not to the point where I can pay for rent, bills, groceries, insurance, contribute to emergency savings and finance the lifestyle my husband had started indulging in. I began paying for his nights out, subbing him money for trips to look for work, etc. all while I was under the assumption he would be searching for a new job. At least to finance his hobbies.

About a week ago, I asked him how the job hunt was going and he told me that he didn’t feel like it was worth it. He said to me that he was comfortable with what we had now and I wasn’t happy to say the least.

I confronted him about how I was doing everything to finance and take care of our household while he sat around and played video games (I was being an a** here, I’ll admit) and during this argument he let slip that he had actually quit and never looked for another job. I was furious that he had lied to me and told him I didn’t want him in my home right now.

Fast forward to now. My in-laws are understanding to an extent but are calling me an a**hole for not wanting him to come back home until he gets a job. I have seen my husband in this time but never in our home, always out somewhere. I no longer pay for everything and his attitude toward me is making me question our entire relationship.

He’s calling me an a**hole for doing this to him, and I’m beginning to think he’s right. Am I an a**hole?”