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Sometimes, you must have difficult conversations with your loved ones.
And a lot of them revolve around what will happen to your parents as they get older.
And this woman wants to know if she’s wrong for telling her parents that she plans on putting them into a retirement home.
Check out her story and see if you think she was out of line for what she said.
AITA for being up front and telling my parents that I am putting them in a home?
“My family is from South Asia but we live in the States. My parents loved my older brother and tolerated me. They expected me to just stay home and take care of them and my brother.
That wasn’t for me. I got a partial scholarship to a state school and GTFO. I worked the four years of my undergrad and was fortunate enough to get a full scholarship for my after degree. So I graduated university with only a small debt and two degrees.
I found a career that I really enjoy and a husband who loves me.
My parents paid for my brother’s education and he does very well for himself. But he has chosen to have five children. And they all go to private school and have all kinds of extra curricular activities. And his wife is a SAHM even though they have a nanny. I know five young children would be difficult to manage. I’m just saying that she has a degree as well but they have chosen to be a one income household.
We are expecting our first child. We waited a few years before deciding to start our family. We will be stopping at two and my husband will be getting a vasectomy afterwards. We are very much in agreement about our future.
My parents however have decided that they are going to sell their home and come live with us. We have a large property with an in-law suite in a HCOL city on the west coast.
I told my husband that I did not want them living with us and he concurred. So I told them no. They said that they already listed their home and that a dutiful daughter would take care of her parents in their old age. I said that if they gave me all the money from the sale of their home I would find them a nice retirement home where they could live and that I would pay the bills until they passed away.
They didn’t like that idea very much. They called me an ungrateful child and that it was expected of me.
I sent them a check for one year’s worth of rent, food, utilities, and sundries. I said I moved out one year after I turned 18 and that they were responsible for me up to that point. I then told them not to contact me again without going through my lawyer.
I have been playing whack a mole blocking all of their attempts to reach me. And all of the family members both in the States and back home that are calling me an a**hole.
My brother contacted me and said that I was making the family look bad by not taking them in. So I gave him the choice of either taking them in himself or never bringing it up to me again or I would be going NC with him as well.
So was I too harsh? And does that make me an a**hole?
I should probably add that they didn’t approve of me marrying a person not from their culture and religion. So they didn’t contribute to our wedding even though they did attend.”
Now check out what Reddit users had to say.
One person said she’s NTA and DNA doesn’t entitle anyone to anything.
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This individual said her brother is completely out of line for what he said.
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And this Reddit user said this would have ultimately been a bad situation for this woman so she did the right thing by being up front with them.
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