Man Wants to Know if He’s a Jerk For Using the Bathroom to Clean Up After Work

Is there anything wrong with cleaning up after a hard day of work?

Apparently, the answer is….YES.

Well, at least that’s what’s going on in this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page.

Let’s get all the details below to see if this guy was out of line.

AITA for using the bathroom after work?

“I (46M) am married, and my wife (38) and I have 4 kids (our youngest is 6).

Now I work a very physically demanding job so I have always needed to take a shower when I get home. One of the biggest sore spots is that my wife does not seem to understand that this shower is non-negotiable and, ever since our first was born she has been getting upset on and off about it.

Even after almost 14 years she still has not grasped that I will always need to shower. She complains that she has to “wait” over an hour after I get home for me to be “any use”. I’m not sure what she feels I should be doing instead since it’s not like she needs my help with dinner – and I usually just eat whatever I want to after the kids are in bed so it is not like they are waiting on me.

It all came to a big blow up last evening because the house was a mess and she claimed that if I would stop taking my “hour break” I could pull my weight. Thing is, that after a long day of physical work, the last thing I want to do is spend the rest of my waking hours doing chores. She teaches at the high school so it is not as demanding.

The issue is that she usually gets caught up on the weekends but because she’s spent the last few weekends laying in bed (“recovering” from a flu – she was fine but said she was tired by weekends) now the house is a disaster and somehow it’s all my fault because I have to use the bathroom and take a shower?”