15. Minnie

The real reason I broke up with my boyfriend is because he told me that he draws pictures of himself having sex with Minnie Mouse.

16. Wasting Time

I’m a 24 year old girl and my boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex until he’s married. At first I was alright with that, but it’s been 3 years, and I’m getting frustrated.

Recently it was also made apparent to me that our difference in religion will be an impediment to us getting married. I am Baptist but he is Catholic, and his mother refuses to set foot in any church other than her own. They don’t even attend church every week!

I don’t know what to do. It should be my wedding so I should get to decide where I get married, not his mother. If I want to have sex with him, I have to marry him. If I want to marry him, I have to become Catholic and abandon all of my beliefs.

He keeps telling me to wait and that a solution will come. I just think that I’m wasting his time. Other than the fact that we will never have a future together we are perfect for each other.

17. Emotional Infidelity

I didn’t realize it until today, but for the last couple of months I’ve been emotionally cheating on my girlfriend with a good friend of mine. There’s no overt flirting and the conversation is generally just dumb snark or politics, but it kind of feels like she’s filled a void my girlfriend should be filling (lol). While we’ve been physical in the past it’s a line conversation never really crosses. We live far enough apart that there’s no realistic chance of that happening again.

My girlfriend knows we talk frequently, and is okay with it, but probably because she doesn’t get the full picture. If she knew how important my friend was to me, and that we’ve slept together before things would be be different. I only feel guilty because I know it would upset her, otherwise I feel like this is kind of harmless. The right decision would involve cutting contact and essentially choosing between two of my best friends.

But I can’t do that. For now I’m oddly okay with that decision.

18. “I’m not that interesting.”

I’m just your average middle aged single guy. Well I’m on FB and have only a modest amount of friends. Mostly just family, church friends, and some co workers. I don’t do much accept occasionally post inspirational stuff. So I was updating my photo album and selected all. It worked perfectly. Almost too good because I accidentally uploaded an old sex video too in the process.

Well now I go through the week and notice that I’m getting some strange looks from folks that normally wouldn’t look at me much less talk to me. I think nothing of it because no one says anything. Fast forward to now I’m updating my Facebook profile. Then I see it and it’s got a few views. I’m not embarrassed but I did hide it now.

So I believe that should do it. I’m going to be okay, as I’m not popular, so this should blow over, as I’m not that interesting.

19. Catfish

Feel like getting all this off my chest. Not sure why, might help some people avoid getting into situations like people I’ve known and duped get into and also maybe help understand why some people catfish. It isn’t always romance.

I’m a catfish. Or I was. Given it up for the most part. It started about four years ago. I should probably tell you about me. I am 25 years old, gay male living in Europe. I am decent looking, so not a usual fat/lonely/ugly type of person who does this. I was bored and on chat sites, just text ones and looking for partners to cam with, specifically ones that would do what I wanted to see on camera.

I found it easy to find them and they were fine to do whatever I wanted. I got bored of this, the gay guys were all too happy to do my bidding. I changed who I was. I started saying I was female. I browsed a few social media sites (not giving specifics since do not want to be traced), found a girl who was pretty but not too pretty that I wouldn’t be believed and who had plenty of photos I could call up if I wanted. I also didn’t know this girl. I started talking to guys who were looking for girls.

The thrill was instant, of them not knowing who I was. I kept my personality mostly the same since I found it easier. In the early days I found trying to make up a whole new person was too easy to be caught out on. I’d send a few photos and have my fun. Many of the guys who “one and done” never speaking to them again on the site. I made my “new self” an E-mail and Skype account, and started talking to some people more than once. They suggested a few BDSM style social media sites to get profiles on. I made them under female self, and continued talking to many guys. It was part the show, but also part pushing them. Seeing how far they would go.

For the most part, I saw it as a victimless crime. The guys were more than happy to do the things I wanted and they went away thinking they had been doing it for the girl they thought was pretty. As long as they never found out, everything was fine. I did this when I was bored, and found it more enticing and erotic than pornography. It was interactive. I could login to Skype and have one of the guys do a personalised show. I deleted people who asked too many questions, or who I thought maybe got too close.

One or two sadly did end up liking me too much. But why wouldn’t they? A kinky girl who also could talk movies and games. A few times I did own up to who I was. Once, the guy was so into my personality, he kept talking and performing, but the thrill of it was gone.

After about two years, I got bolder, pushing guys into doing more things. And also, a few got more needy for attention that they offered money. I accepted, in the form of gift cards. This has brought me some guilt. Over the last few years, I have taken around $14,000 from them. I have not blackmailed them. I have not forced them to, in most cases they enjoy this practice, and again, they think they are talking to a girl and it excites them.

In this day and age, people have cellphones with cameras and I believe they actually don’t want to know the truth. I would never talk to anyone who couldn’t do a Skype call ever.

Anyway. This is my confession. I have few regrets really. I am giving it up for the most part, it took up too much time, and people are getting more tech savvy for the most part. I continue to speak to a few people just in E-mails, purely because they have repeat gift cards setup to send and I want to keep them going as long as possible.

So, it is not always for romance. For me, it was the thrill, the excitement and later, the money.