Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, you’ve probably seen at least one man complain about how hard and confusing life is in the #MeToo era. I’ve seen comments like, “No one can take a compliment anymore,” “I guess I can’t flirt anymore,” and (my personal favorite) “Blah, blah, blah #NotAllMen.” Like many women, comedian Kate Willett has had enough of the nonsense, and she posted on Facebook to set everyone straight:
She makes it really simple: flirting=empathy and desire. Harassment=force and a lack of empathy. Easy peasy.
Facebook users agreed. This response gives another great example of the difference between the two:
This guy gets it:
Willett also posted her thoughts on Twitter, where she got more great responses:
I've never read a better definition of the difference. This really ought to be posted up in every pub and workplace in the country. I have brought up my children to be respectful at all times in their relationships, but never quite been able to express it this eloquently.
— David Pearce (@davidgpearce) December 11, 2017
And this one, which notes that Willet could have gone in a different direction entirely:
It would have been so easy and so justified for you to make a joke here but you wrote something lovely and moving instead. Fantastic
— Conor Mahood (@conormahood) December 11, 2017
Ultimately, flirting is fun and mutual. Harassment is not. It really is that simple.