Even though the United States – and the world – has made giant strides in the area of LGBTQ rights over the past several years, plenty of people out there are holding onto their hate.
Which is annoying in the best of times, but downright heartbreaking when the person spewing intolerance in your direction is the person who is supposed to love you most: your mother.
Teenager Chad sadly had that experience after he got up the courage to tell his mother, Christine, that he was gay. In return, she rejected him, disowned him, and called him both an “abomination” and “against nature.”
Luckily, Chad has a pretty awesome grandfather who had his back, no holds barred .
The man wrote his daughter a scathing letter that told her what he thought of her parenting choices. Bless his heart.
“Dear Christine: I’m disappointed in you as a daughter. You’re correct that we have shame in the family, but mistaken about what it is,” he wrote. “Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real ‘abomination’ here. A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature’.”
“The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that ‘you didn’t raise your son to be gay’. Of course you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t choose it any more than he being left-handed. You, however, have made the choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded and backward.”
“So, while we are in the business of disowning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gay put it) grandson to raise and I don’t have time for heartless B-word of a daughter.”
“If you find your heart, give us a call.”
And I’m not the only one who thinks so, either, because the internet definitely had Grandpa’s back.
To be clear, we all still have a long way to go if making the world a safe place for everyone to express themselves is a goal (and it should be). According to GLAAD’s annual Accelerating Acceptance report, the number of Americans between the ages of 18-34 who are comfortable interacting with LGBTQ people actually declined between 2016 and 2018, from 63% to 45%.
36% of young people said they would be “uncomfortable” learning a family member was LGBTQ.
So if you’re counting on the younger generation to save us, don’t. Instead, be the example like the grandfather above – it’s the best way up and out!