He Asked His Fiancée to Sleep on a Pull-Out Couch So His Daughter Could Sleep in the Bed. Is He Wrong?

You take the couch, the kid gets the bed.

It doesn’t sound like that big of a deal, right?

Not so fast, people!

Because this demand made by the guy you’re about to her from has his fiancée all riled up…but did he go too far?

Read on to get all the details and see what you think!

AITA for asking my fiancée to sleep on the pull out couch so my daughter could sleep in my bed?

“So I (43m) have a fiancée (39f) and I also have a daughter (16f), and the three of us traveled to visit my fiancées parents to have them meet us.

Last night we got a hotel for the last night before we drove home, and my fiancée and I were in the master bed and my daughter was in the pull out couch bed in the next room, and shortly after we went to sleep, my daughter asked if she could sleep in my bed with me.

My daughter is on the spectrum and has anxiety from previous trauma and has some trouble with being alone in unfamiliar places, so I said absolutely and I initially offered to go sleep on the pull out couch with her but she said it was very uncomfortable and she needed to sleep on a real mattress.

I asked my fiancée if she’d be willing to sleep on the pull out couch for the night, and she seemed a little annoyed. I offered to get another room for us or to figure something else out, but she insisted it was ok. So my daughter and I shared the master bed and my fiancée slept on the pull out couch.

Today we got home and she’s seemed kind of passive aggressive with me and when I asked what was wrong, she said she felt completely sidelined and like she was treated with no respect or decency last night. I told her I was sorry but my daughter was in distress and I needed to do something, and she insisted she’s not a little kid and could’ve done something else that didn’t involve sleeping in my bed with me.

Then I told her she was starting to get out of line and she needs to understand I have an autistic daughter so if we’re going to be together, she needs to understand stuff like this will happen from time to time. She got very annoyed with me and then walked off.


Let’s see what Reddit users had to say.

One person said he’s not a total a**hole, but…

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And this individual said the daughter’s behavior shouldn’t be excused.

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This Reddit user said the man’s daughter is too old to be doing this.

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