He Didn’t Buy His Girlfriend the Gift She Asked For. Is He a Jerk?

Guys, do you want a life lesson?

Well, even if you don’t, I’m gonna give you one: if your girlfriend or your wife says they want something specific for their birthday and it’s not too over-the-top, GET IT FOR THEM.

And that’s my TED Talk for today.

Now that we have that out of the way, take a look at this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page and see if you think this guy acted like a big jerk.

AITA for not buying my GF the gift she asked for b-day?

“I (30M) have girlfriend (28F) of 6 years. It’s always a problem to get her something for b-day so I asked her what she wants.

At first she said she doesn’t know and that some nice dinner would do. But yesterday she came home from work and told me she saw very nice set of japanese knives she would like but it’s a bit expensive gift.

The knives were $254 which I think is nonsense to pay for knives since she is not professional cook, she cooks as a hobby. I told her I think it’s unreasonable and that I won’t buy it for her. She said ok, but was quiet the whole evening.

When I asked her what happened she told me I shouldn’t ask her what she wants if I don’t want to take it in consideration. I think it’s a bit childish, she gave me one suggestion and I said no. It shouldn’t be such a big deal.

Also money is not the problem we have both nice salaries and are childfree with reasonable monthly expenses. We don’t have any limit for the price of the gifts. For my last b-day she got me summer trip to Turkey (paid by some benefits from her job).

So am I the a**hole?”