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How Did You Find Love After 30? People Shared Their Stories.

It’s never too late to find that person who completes you.

That goes for all of us!

And that’s a good thing because I ain’t gettin’ any younger, my friends…and I’m still lookin’ for Mrs. Right…

Instead of Mrs. Right Now!

Hey o! Sorry, I had to do it…

My point is that a lot of people fall in love after the age of 30 so if you haven’t yet, don’t even sweat it.

Let’s see how it all went down from AskReddit users who found love a little bit later in life.

1. A happy ending.

“Met her at a party when I was 32.

I wanted to ask for her number, but never had the chance for a 1-on-1 conversation as she and her friend were tied at the hip that night. But I knew where she worked. I called her on Monday and we had our first date the following weekend.

I am glad we didn’t meet any earlier than we did because she’s nine years younger than me, so it would have been pretty weird for me to be in my early 30’s dating a college student.

12 years later we are still going strong with two kids and a happy marriage.”

2. Classy!

“I was working the window at a Starbucks drive thru and I saw her open the passenger side door to yack into the flower bed as I was feeding her dog his cup of whipped cream.

That’s when I knew I had found the one for me.

It is now 5 years later and we are engaged to be married.”

3. Job interview.

“I was 30, he was 38. I was in a (toxic) relationship at the time, he was newly divorced.

I was interviewing for a software engineering position at a game company. I had already spent a few hours interviewing there, but they asked me to come back in to do one more interview with a technical director.

I remember him being friendly, but nerves got the best of me. Later, he told me he thought I was cute. I didn’t notice, I was in interview mode.

He rejected me for the position as someone else was better. Was crushed, but I ended up getting an offer elsewhere.

Fast forward over a year later, and I’m unemployed again. In a strange coincidence, that same company (that had rejected me) reached out again, and asked me if I wanted to apply again for that same job, as the previous guy bailed after a year. I did, so they fast-tracked my application and interview–only 1 interview this time, no technical director.

I got the job.

Turns out he worked closely with my group, and 6 months after I started (when I was 32 and he 39), we started dating.

We got married 4 months ago, at 37 and 44. I still don’t let him forget that he rejected me the first time he met me!”

4. Let’s hit the bar.

“I was 32, she was 38. I was supposed to go to a speed dating event but my sister called me drunk at 2pm on a Friday to go to a bar.

I was already dreading the speed date so headed over to drink with sis and my friend instead. By 5pm I had just enough courage to be social with a girl who walked down the street after work and recognized my friend. Because I thought I was going speed dating I’d dressed up. It was pure luck.

I knew enough to know you didn’t waste time with a woman near 40. So two weeks later I bluntly asked if she wanted a family. We were married within a year. We have two kids.

We had that first year alone together and some days I wish we’d had more, but mostly I think how bananas it was that no one scooped her up. She’s my best friend and she has a laugh you can hear two counties away.”

5. Keep that one in your back pocket.

“She was a bridesmaid in my first wedding.

And if we met earlier, it wouldn’t have worked.

She wasn’t in a relationship state of mind yet.”

6. Got a light?

“My husband and I met at a cafe in Paris when we were both 35.

I’d asked him for a light and sat down at his table and we talked until the cafe closed. Two days later we saw each other there again and made plans for dinner that night. Five months later we married.

My husband frequently says he wishes he’d met me 15 years earlier and, while yeah it’d be nice to have had even more time with him, I feel we met exactly when we were meant to.

Sometimes it feels like we’d set a date to meet at that exact cafe on that exact day. When I walked in and saw him that first night it was like, oh there you are.”

7. Don’t wish your life away.

“I was 34, divorced and destined to be the old cat lady at the end of the street. Took a job as a police dispatcher in another city. Air Force guy who worked down the hall apparently never came in until I started working there.

He started coming in monthly….then weekly…and started wearing cologne: oh no. Coworkers said ‘ooooh he’s cute, go out with him’. First 4 times I said no. Then…one day he bent down by my desk and looked up at me and the light caught his eyes.

Oh my god they were so blue. Cerulean blue, like the ocean after a storm. I fell into those eyes and never looked back. We had 16 years and 2 children.

Then he had a heart attack and died at 51. Don’t waste your years. Don’t wish your life away.”

8. Awesome!

“We met through Craigslist.

I was lonely looking for someone to see movies with. She was looking for more. But after a few weeks of chatting we met up , and omg the sparks, and chemistry.

Our first date lasted 9 hours… Here we are, still madly in love, 11 years later and 2 kids, 4 states, 4 apartments, 2 houses and our 10 year anniversary in September.”

9. People change.

“I met my partner 3 years ago through mutual friends. After two failed marriages I swore I would stay single forever.

We moved in together two years ago and its been great. I am 66 he is 55. We are incredibly happy. I don’t think I wish I would have met him earlier.

People are different when they are seniors compared to when we were younger. Different hobbies, dreams, etc.”

10. Music brings people together.

“I met my partner when I was 32. We were each in the same music scene so I’d get to see her out.

I wasn’t ready for a good relationship before that so I was happy to meet her then. Last September was our 17 year anniversary. I’m glad I didn’t settle and waited until I found someone that I’m really happy with.”

11. Used to be a moron.

“I met my wife when I was 31. She was 24.

I was a complete moron in my 20s. Acted like a teenager who was even dumber than when he was a teenager. Perfect timing for me and she helped me seriously get my sh*t together.

Married 20 yrs in May, 2 teen kids. Awesome life right now.

We met at the waterf ountain of a gym. I had never met a woman at a gym before.”

12. Online dating.

“Tinder of all places, at 36 now 41.

And I most definitely would have f*cked it up if we had met earlier – a younger me couldn’t have appreciated how kind and selfless she is.

Having someone who brings out the best in me would have been such a ridiculous idea.

We’re perfect together because of when we came into each other’s lives it seems.”

13. Different times.

“We met the old fashioned way, in a restaurant through a mutual friend. I had to work out of town for a couple of months after meeting but on returning we quickly moved into together and married in 1990.

So almost 35 years ago. We didn’t have cell phones in 1986 much less the internet. Fax machines were a big thing.

Different world. Different times.”

14. Time well spent.

“A new neighbor moved into the second floor studio and was chatting with me from his balcony while I worked on a art project in the yard.

Thought nothing of it, till some houseguests insisted I come up and meet their friend , small world. Weeks later he told me he was flirting with me but I was oblivious (as usual).

We had 20 wonderful years together till he died suddenly , and yes I do wish we had met earlier cuz then we would have had more time together.”

15. Never too late.

“I did not meet the love of my life until I was 68.

He was 65 and not in great health. We met at local Poker tournament.

He also claimed I was the love of his life. We were not clingy but devoted and certain to always be together. After sharing only 1 Christmas, Valentine’s Day and 2 birthdays, I found him in agonal breathing with no pulse.

EMS got his heart started again but he succumbed after 36 days in CICU. We never had a chance for last words. The ventillator and obvious brain damage from his cardiac arrest prevented that. While I will cherish every voice message I have saved and every card and every memory, I wish like hell we’d met earlier in our lives.

But I had to be where I was emotionally and so too him. Better those brief months than never.”

16. Long distance love.

“I was in Australia on a working holiday visa. After going on about a million trials with different companies, I get a call for another interview with another one.

Show up and there are 3 others all “interviewing” for a bunch of different roles. He rushes in late, gives us all a spiel on each of our different roles, asks if we want to try it out, and schedules a time. That was the interview. I don’t think I answered a single question.

He ends up driving me home after my trial day and I think how kind he is and my head automatically out of nowhere goes “It’d be weird if we ended up falling in love and I had to go back to Canada and we had to figure out cross-country futures.” Then I was like “wtf was that? no, boatsmoatsfloats, no, you just met this person.”

About 4.5 months later we were in love, about 7 months after that, I went back to Canada and we had to figure out our cross-country future together. We’re now legally partners, but I haven’t seen him in a year and 15 days. Not at all how the last year was supposed to go, but god I hope I get to see him this year.

I don’t necessarily wish we’d met earlier. I think we would have had a ball together as children because we had very similar interests. I also would have loved to see him in his wild 20s.

But we both had lots of growing to do before we were able to be the partners we are to each other. I do wish we’d had more time together…I wish we had time together now for that matter.”

17. Older and wiser.

“Both of us were married 10 to 15 years previously.

It honesty took the growth of our previous relationships to be able to have the meaningful relationship that we have now.

Funny how your life being in shambles turns into the best thing you ever could have imagined and having a partner that is your true partner.”

18. Perfect timing.

“Met eight years ago had an old car meet in Nevada. Spent a little time together, a bunch of the older ladies shoving us together whenever they could, hence I avoided him the rest of the trip.

He lived in Texas. I lived in California. A year later he called to ask me a question and three hours later we got off the phone. Same thing the next day. Same thing the next day. I invited him to come out and visit because we were having an event at my house. To my utter shock he came. About a year and a half later we were married five days before my 40th birthday.

Fifteen months ago, I gave birth to our first and what will be our only daughter one week after my 43rd birthday. Yes, I wished I met him sooner sometimes.But in hindsight the timing was perfect and meant to be. And I wouldn’t have it any other way!”

19. Don’t settle.

“I only had two-ish relationships in my twenties neither panned out. I met my SO at 32.

I can’t even imagine how I ever settled for less. We matched on two different dating apps. On the week of our first date I was attempting to go full hoe mode and date around and say f*ck it to trying for new relationships any more for a while. On our first date she made a casual reference to DBZ abridged and by the end of the next week I knew I needed to delete the apps and say bye to anyone I might be leading on.

I legitimately don’t know if there’s anyone in this world better for me than she is.”

20. What’s your name?

“I met my wife in a bar when I was with my brother and a friend of his. I thought my brothers friend was a d*ck.

My future wife approached us and proceeded to tell this d*ck what a d*ck he was, turns out they work together. I was immediately attracted to the way she spoke and her judgement of people.

After she walked away, I asked d*ck what her name was, true to form he would not give me her name.

My future wife was with a group of 6 women, I nervously approached and asked for her name.

I was 30, we’ve been together ever since.”

21. Festival romance.

“We met on the Coachella message boards. I was 34 and he was 30. He was looking for a ride to Coachella, I had tickets, but no one to go with.

We met once for about an hour before making the 14 hour drive together. Hung out together the whole weekend, discovered we had similar tastes in music and enjoyed similar things.

We didn’t actually get together until about 3 months later when we met up to go to another music festival together. Music festivals have been a regular part of our 10 years together. Hopefully will be again soon. Stupid Covid.

I don’t think it would’ve worked if we had met earlier, although I wish we had. It took me awhile to figure out how to be in a healthy relationship, and I’m glad I met him at my right time.”

22. Nice!

“I met my wife in junior high school. We were friends in a group of friends. Never dated.

Lost contact after high school. 25 years later we saw each other on social media, reacquainted as friends, then started dating and 8 years later we married. Still happily married after 9 years.

We were both different people when we were younger and agree that it wouldn’t have worked out between us if we got together when we were young.”

23. Strangers on a train.

“Met on the train.

I had the day off and was just riding random trains (personal joy) and she was going to work to fill in for someone. We wouldn’t have met under any other circumstances. She approached me, gave me her card and asked me out for coffee. Happily married for 7 years.

Do I wish we met earlier? No, early to mid-20s me was only concerned about clubbing and hanging out with friends. I would have probably blown her off. We both met at the right time in life.”

24. It takes time.

“Sent her a message on OkCupid, but then she set her account to inactive without seeing my message.

Two years later, she reactivated her account, looked at her old messages, saw mine at the top of the queue, and the rest is history.”

How about you?

Did you find love after 30?

Or maybe even later?

If so, tell us your stories in the comments. Thanks!