Married People Talk About the First Impressions They Got From Their Spouses

I’ve never been married, but I definitely remember my first impression of some of the girlfriends I’ve had in the past.

Some were great and some…well, let’s just say it wasn’t love at first sight.

Do you remember your first impression of your spouse?

These folks on AskReddit sure do!

1. Dumbstruck.

“My first impression was actually mild disappointment and the thought that we weren’t compatible because he wasn’t laughing at my jokes.

In retrospect, I realized that at our first meeting, my now-husband was literally dumbstruck.

He was like those cartoons where their jaw dropped and they couldn’t say anything coherent.”

2. Still true.

“Impressed/floored; beautiful, smart, mannered, successful, out of my league.

All still true.”

3. Don’t leave!

“When I first met my wife, I was convinced she’d simply get up and leave the date.

As time went on, I realized she was nervous and had a terrible self-image despite being drop-dead gorgeous.

It took me weeks to realize she thought I would walk out on her.

We’re rapidly approaching 10 years of marriage.”

4. Are you a creep?

“She thought I was a creep when I said hello. I was just looking for a someone to spend a few days with while on vacation, we were both single travelers in a hostel.

Wasn’t the first time I was single traveling, usually managed to get a group together within a few days. Not this time, we ended up spending the entire vacation together, just the 2 of us.

Not immediately attracted to each other, but we got talking and 6 hours later we were the only 2 left around the pool of the hostel and exchanged numbers and went to sleep (separate) thinking WTF just happened.”

5. You lucked out.

“I was at a Halloween party in my early 20s. Almost every girl at the party was dressed up as a s*xy something.

The woman who is now my wife was dressed up in a full body black robe with face paint, carrying a red lightsaber. A red lightsaber that I accidentally broke while playing around at the end of the night.

I’m extremely lucky that she agreed to go on a date after that.”

6. Just my type.

“She was adorable.

Cute and quirky; definitely my type. It felt like we already knew each other and we were meeting up after not seeing each other for a while.

Felt like coming home.”

7. You’ll like this one.

“I was working at a restaurant that happened to have a mostly female staff and had a recent string of not so great male servers: one was caught stealing, another one was a perv, and the another was just a tool.

So one shift when an older waitress was training this new hire and said how good-looking the new trainee was “like Zac Efron”, I kind of rolled my eyes and did not have high hopes.

Sure enough, when I went to introduce myself, I did notice he was he was admittedly good looking and actually very polite with a deep voice. We got married six years later.”

8. Well, that worked out!

“”Hmm, not my type”

Our first ever “meeting” was at a movie night of a mutual friend. We didn’t even speak as far as I remember.

It wasn’t until about a year later she showed up at a party in the local youth club where I was bartending that we got to chatting.

Tried putting the moves on her, but didn’t seem like it was working.

Same mutual friend as the movie night then nudged us together over the next week (“dude, I swear (s)he’s in to you!”) and here we are 10 years together, 4 years married and 2 kids later…”

9. I spilled…some acid…

“She came to our friends group complaining she spilled some acid on herself in the chemistry lab.

Also, we shared some M&Ms.”

10. Hella cute.

“”Wow, he IS cute.”

He’d just walked through the door of the little dive bar we were meeting at. (We’d “met” on a video dating service and it was our first face-to-face.)

That was 29 years ago and I still think he is hella cute.”

11. A hard time.

“Thought he was the biggest *sshole I’d ever met.

His grandpa had just died and he was really hurting. He is actually a lovely dude. He has had his moments, who hasn’t, but he is always trying to better himself. We’ve been together 11 years, married, kids.

Went through so much together. Couldn’t imagine life with anyone else.”

12. Everything got blurry.

“I swear to God, it was exactly like the first time he sees Maria in West Side Story.

The entire rest of the room went blurry and she was the only person I could focus on and I just went “wow”.

I made up my mind to talk to her, rudely butted into whatever conversation she was having by saying “I have relatives in Sacramento!” and she luckily thought I was cute.

Been married 13 years now.”

13. Lucky you!

“We found each other on Tinder.

I ran into him on the way to the restaurant we were supposed to meet at and the first thing I thought was “Wow, he looks so much better than his profile pics. Thank God he can’t use a camera well or else he’d probably be snatched up already.””

14. Ouch!

“”I just know this guy is going to be a GIANT pain in the *ss.”

We were coworkers.

I was right.”

15. Those eyes, though.

“She has beautiful eyes and she was so pretty (still very much so).

I was so nervous, I went to bathroom and gave myself double finger guns and said don’t screw this up.

Still married 5 years!”

16. Did you just get out of jail?

“I thought he was an ex-convict.

He’s super muscular, tattoos covering every inch of his body; all around just a very threatening looking guy. He came up to me and told me “I think you’re adorable. Can I have your number?”

I was petrified because I have never dated or attracted anyone of this type. But he charmed me. Turns out he’s a huge softy with a goofy personality.

He cracks up at the smallest things, he loves sweets like a little kid, getting tucked in at night and is scared of the dark. I love him to bits!”

17. Pleasantly surprised.

“The very first impression was pleasantly surprised.

For context, it was my first day at my first (student) job, and my boss was showing me around and introducing me to everyone by going to all office rooms, one after the other.

My now-husband was in the very last room, and I was “warned” that that team was a bit “special”, mainly because of their very direct and sometimes weird/harsh sense of humor. What surprised me was his hair color, as my now husband was the only one in this department of ~50 people with brightly colored hair.

So while I didn’t get to talk to him much that day, I remembered him for his hair color alone. It took us a few more weeks getting into contact and to eventually start dating, last weekend was our ten year anniversary (and third wedding anniversary), and he still rocks his brightly colored hair.”

18. You’re cool.

“I thought he was so cool.

We had talked online for a few days but it wasn’t until I saw him walking towards me when we met for our first date that I realized he was way out of my league.

Luckily he thought the same thing about me.”

19. A loveable dork.

“I was a bartender and he was one of the first to get a drink from me that day.

So I didn’t think much, I was still trying to screw my head on and jump into the shift. He kept coming back tho, not always to get a drink sometimes just to stand near my bar while I made drinks. His friend brought him there for his birthday, yet he spent most of his time with me.

Once I noticed him, I thought he was a lovable dork. I needed to a have a conversation with him where I could be myself and not in working mode”

20. They don’t always matter.

“I don’t remember.

I was wasted and have absolutely no recollection of meeting her at all. Her first impression of me however was that I was obnoxious and probably gay.

I guess first impressions aren’t always the most important.”

21. Man of mystery.

“”Wow, that guy is cute and quiet. He’s so mysterious!”

My husband and I met working in a bookstore.

I asked him if he ever talked, he looked me in the eye, nodded, then walked away. I was hooked!”

22. Drawn to him.

“Electric blue eyes that you can see from across the room, wicked good sense of humor, confident, so attractive, love his freckles.

I felt drawn to him like a magnet, and literally had an almost overwhelming urge to rub my face on him like a cat, which totally freaked me right out. I immediately texted my sister and asked if that had ever happened to her because I felt like such a weirdo.

She screenshotted the convo and saved it; now she sends it to me every year on that date.”

23. Did you a solid.

“Met my wife on a blind date.

My first impression was that the guy who set us up did me a total solid.

That was about 14 years ago.”

24. Out of your league.

“When I first saw her I thought she’s hot and way out of my league.

After mutual flirting and going on a date I thought she was smart, funny, attractive, and still out of my league. Been married for five years.

Nothing has changed, I still think she’s out of my league.”

What was YOUR first impression of your spouse?

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