Mom Explains Why She Won't Let Her 5-Year-Old Child Apologize to Her 12-Year-Old Sibling

Siblings can make for great companions, but they also often say mean things to each other. Even worse, in many households, siblings are taught to get angry at the person they hurt.

But this mom wasn’t having it. She went on Twitter and wrote a thread about the events that occurred in her house. Then her five-year-old daughter taught us all a lesson.

First, she gave us the basic details.

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254204294380826624?s=20

She wasn’t about to let her sweet daughter apologize to her brother because he was the one who got in trouble for good reason!

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254204463834898433?s=20

Mom was trying to teach her daughter a valuable lesson. We all know young girls and women and taught to apologize for problems they didn’t create, and it’s clear that @Dr.ChaeEd didn’t want her daughter to learn this harmful life lesson.

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254204827263012864?s=20

Mom even did a restorative circle.

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254206029639716865?s=20

Dad got involved so he could help sort this out as well.

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254207729117229056?s=20

Mom even gave us an update about what dad and Laila (her daughter) said.

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254211458407096320?s=20

Many Twitter users felt this was a sweet exchange.

I totally get where she’s coming from. I always hated when I felt like it was my fault my brother got in trouble (in most cases it was a scenario similar to your tweet)

I love her compassion

— Love Speaks (@blsdnbeautiful) April 26, 2020

And mom explained what they discussed with Laila.

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254207227000283136?s=20

She then gave another meaningful update.

https://twitter.com/DrChaeEd/status/1254507164296675328?s=20

Women supported this mom’s decision.

I wish I had learned this lesson early in my life. Way to go mom.

— 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕨𝕙𝕠𝕝𝕖𝕤𝕠𝕞𝕖 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕟™ (@docsloosechange) April 26, 2020

Other women shared their struggles. Pearls of wisdom were shared!

https://twitter.com/PiperAnderson1/status/1254448779576717320?s=20

Setting boundaries is healthy and good!

Exactly. Girls especially need to be taught this boundary setting.

— CrankyBanker 🌻 (@MarthaPaschal6) April 26, 2020

And some people want her to write a parenting book!

Ma’am, where can I get your parenting book? Because THIS is how we have to raise our girls! Nicely done!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

— Just Cherries 🌈🌈🌈 (@Just1cherries) April 26, 2020

Well-done, mom!

https://twitter.com/jeneanebee/status/1254258126708244481?s=20

This thread began an important conversation.

You rock!!! My brother and step sister verbally tormented me for a long time, in front if my parents who did nothing. It took a long time in therapy and growing up for me to start thinking it’s not ok when someone treats me poorly. She’s going to be strong!

— Amber C. Skellington 🎃💀 (@rosellasweet89) April 26, 2020

Thankfully @DrChaeEd instilled a powerful for her children. What did you think of how she went about this? Are there any other lessons you wish you would have learned about boundary-setting the past? We’d love for you to share these in the comments!