They can lead to a lot of problems, can’t they?
But this story is a little bit different…
Check it out and see if you think this person was wrong for what they failed to tell their cousin.
AITA for not telling my cousin my fiance works at the same office as her husband?
“First/only post, I mainly lurk. I thought stuff like this only happened in movies, but it happened and would like some unbiased opinions. More light-hearted than some of the other posts on here.
I have a cousin ‘Kat’, who got married to ‘Henry’ early this year. We weren’t close as kids – she was pretty spoilt and would always brag about how much designer stuff she has, be really mean to people under the guise of “just trying to help”, etc. Don’t go out of our way to interact with one another but I do see her at family events and whatnot and we make small talk.
I’m engaged to ‘Chris’, who is a software engineer. He’s co-head of his department at work with two other people – not too long ago, Chris was telling me about how they had some new employees and one of them sounded really familiar, he told me the name and I realized it was Kat’s husband. (Also he and Henry hadn’t met face-to-face yet)
Kat and Henry had a huge wedding, it was really nice but all she did for months is brag about how amazing her wedding was. The wedding stuff’s died down now so recently she’s started going on about how wealthy her husband is and what a great lifestyle they have.
One of my other aunts celebrated her 50th about a week ago, I went with Chris and Kat was there with Henry. We were chatting and Kat was saying how Henry has a fantastic new job that pays even more than his previous one. Henry chimed in and said that they were already planning to buy a new house. Kat asked what Chris does. I said he was an engineer like Henry and he has a good job too, but I’ll admit I left out where he works on purpose.
She smiled and nodded, then said it’s fine, she understands that I’m embarrassed and want to keep it quiet. So that was pretty much the end of our conversation then – when we were leaving, she pulled me aside and told me to “let her and Henry know if we needed help with the wedding”. Obviously I knew what she meant and it was just another dig, but I said bye and left.
Literally two days later, I get a dm from Kat and she’s furious (well, as much as one can be through text) that I didn’t tell them that Chris was one of Henry’s bosses. Henry was shocked to see him in the office and Chris made a comment “tell Kat -OP- and me don’t need help but thanks for offering”.
Henry’s really embarrassed and so’s Kat, and she said that we made them look bad on purpose and if she knew, she’d have never made those comments. It was my “duty” to tell her and Henry. Chris and I had a really good laugh over this, but she sent a text out to the family group chat we have saying how she was “blindsided” by me. A few others said that what we did was petty and wrong.
And here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.
This reader said this person is NTA and they handled it the right way.
And this individual said that when you deal with people like Kat, there’s really no way to win.
Another Reddit user offered up a suggestion of what they would have said if this happened to them.
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