She Blew up on a Customer Because He Had a Problem With Her Being a Woman. Is She Wrong?

It’s kind of crazy that people in this day and age think women aren’t qualified to do certain jobs…but you and I both know that it happens…

And it probably happens a lot more than we’d like to admit…

So was this woman wrong for blowing up at a customer?

Check out this story and let us know what you think

AITA for blowing up on a customer he can rebuilt the fence himself if he has a problem with me being a woman?

“I (F20) have been interested in woodworking since I was 12 and from 15 I was helping out at my stepdad’s business. First it was just cleaning, holding, bringing things but later I became pretty much a full employee outside studies.

Last month was busy so I took what seemed like simpler contracts or orders to do myself. One of those was making new and replacing some balcony fence planks. I talked with the customer on phone beforehand and later went there to take measurements and other details.

When I first came, he didn’t look exactly pleased, asking me if there’s someone else coming later. I had that happen before, I have no problem with this. I tried to lighten the mood by saying “How hard can using a tape measure and a drill be?”

Also said that he hopes the measures will be correct and then asked if I’ll be the one doing the actual planks and replacement too. I answered most probably.

Few days later, I went to actually replace the planks.

He didn’t say much at first, since the planks were good. But then he started nagging like “you’re holding it wrong” (I wasn’t), “you’re making mess here” (with the old ones rotten into oblivion). All while basically breathing down my neck. That was tolerable still, what wasn’t was him saying “you said you can do I yourself!” or “see, why trades are man dominated?” when I asked him to hold or hand me something.

When I finished, he told me it wasn’t half bad but it could be better and faster. Like excuse me, the size – match, lining, distances – good and match, paint – good. Why did it take longer? Almost as if there was something to speed it up little. I asked if he sees any particular problem so I can fix it. He said no, just that a “normal” woodworker would do it faster.

I just lost it and said “Well I repaired your f**king fence, that makes me a woodworker enough, or not, because women can’t be in trades? Why didn’t you do it yourself, if I shouldn’t do trade jobs in the first place?!”

He told me the good old respect elders and not to raise voice on customers but you know, I can tolerate only so much.


Check out how Reddit users reacted.

One person said she’s NTA and that the man is clearly to blame here.

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Another Reddit user agreed and said what they would have done…

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And this individual had some feelings about this whole “respect your elders” business.

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