When is it okay to NOT make your kids apologize for something they said or did?
We all know that parenting is complicated and this mother is standing firm behind her son’s actions…but is she an a**hole?
Check out her story and see what you think.
AITA for not making my son do anything?
“I am a person of color and my husband is white. We have 3 kids and they are white passing. No one ever realizes that they aren’t 100% white.
We live in a predominantly white area but I’ve never really had any issues. There is an okay poc population too.
But I got a call from my 15 year old son’s school. He apparently got into a verbal but bad and almost physical fight with some kid because they called me r**ist things. Basically, a teacher was talking about the country I’m from for some reason and a kid made a r**ist joke.
Like it wasn’t one of those jokes you can maybe brush off. It was bad. My son went wtf and the kid asked why he was so offended so he said that he’s literally mixed and that his mom is of that race. The kid then said r**ist things about me and my son lost it.
My son only got a stern talking to and the other kid got suspended for h**eful speech or something.
The kid’s mom contacted me and apologized. But then she told me she wanted my son to apologize and promise to leave him alone as well. I asked if she was being serious and her reasoning was that my son is a “popular athlete” and her kid is “a shy quiet kid” and she’s terrified school will be worse for him now. She said that he made a mistake but he doesn’t deserve to be shunned by it.
I just went “your child was pretty bold for a shy quiet kid. I’m not making my son do s**t.”
She gasped obnoxiously and then immediately began to insult me and say I was being unfair, selfish etc. That her kid is being punished and that he’s still learning. I just hung up on her.
She did send me a long text after though saying the same things and asking me to be understanding/implying that I’m an AH. My friends say I am kind of an a** and I should think about it as her kid is only 15 and my son will be alright either way.
Idk, AITA?”
Let’s see what Reddit users said about this.
One reader said she’s NTA and that this other kind learned this kind of behavior at home.
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Another reader agreed and said the other parent is trying to minimize this incident.
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And another Reddit user said she’s NTA and her son shouldn’t apologize because he did nothing wrong.
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