She Won’t Speak to Her Husband Because He Chose Work Over Her Surgery. Is She Wrong?

This one sounds REALLY bad from the title, don’t you think?

But sometimes you get some really wild stories from the “Am I the A**hole?” page on Reddit.

And we think this one is gonna make you sit back and try to decide who was right in this situation.

AITA for refusing to speak to my husband because he chose work over my surgery?

“I (26F) recently found out that I have a mass on my tonsil. My doctor immediately opted for a tonsillectomy.

It could be cancer, so he wanted to get it out as soon as possible. I have had cancer once before. My husband (27M) works all the time. He almost never calls off, and recently got another job. My surgery is scheduled for a day that he works. He told me that he was not going to be taking me, because he has to work. I don’t have a way to get there, because I cannot drive myself, and I’ve had to ask friends to take me.

They are not able to, and I’m pretty introverted naturally so I don’t have a ton of close friends in general. I have two close friends who live here, and one doesn’t have a car. I don’t really have any family that is close enough to be able to. I’m struggling to find someone in time.

I also need someone to stay with me for the entire first 24 hours (to help me manage pain meds while being high on anesthesia and making sure there are no complications from it basically), and he says he can’t because he has to work.

They are wondering why he won’t take a day off work and especially why he won’t take a few days off so he can help me out if I need it as I’m coming off the anesthesia. This upset me so much that I haven’t even been able to look at him or speak to him for the past 2 days. He told me I’m TA because I don’t care about his job, and he called me controlling for getting upset and ignoring him.

I’m starting to think maybe I am a bit of an AH here. So, Reddit, am I the a**hole?”