These 13+ People Musing on What They Would Say to a Deceased Loved One Will Break Your Heart

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Losing someone we love is never easy, and, for some, obsessing over seeing them again and what they would say if they could becomes a daily exercise. There are also some famous dead people I would love to get my hands on – er, ask a question of – and it seems I’m not alone.

#15. We were doing everything we could.

“My daughter. I would tell her how sorry I am that she went through that. We were doing everything we could to save you.”

#14. I’d thank him for being so good to my mom.

“My Step-Father. I’d thank him for being so good to my Mom and to my little brother and I. Might also ask him for some advice.”

#13. He called me once and I missed it.

“My friend, he killed himself back in 2014, but that same day he had called me once and I missed it. I have always wondered since then if i could have helped him if i answered. Guess ill never know.”

#12. I loved him like a brother.

“My best friend of 14 years that I met on Xbox Live passed away this past September. I never got to meet him in person. I would tell him that I made it to Chicago for his service and met his family and friends and tell him just how amazing they all were and how lucky he was to have them. Tell him how sorry I am for not taking him seriously when he told me he had a life threatening illness and how I’ll always regret that being our last conversation. Tell him how I helped carry his casket because I said I always got him. I would tell him just how much I loved him like a brother and just how much I miss him everyday.”

#11. I wish I could do that.

“I made the gut wrenching decision to have my cat put down when we were both 16. I had her since I was 2, we grew up together, and one day after a long battle with liver and kidney failures, I came across her lying on my bed, breathing really heavy, she looked like she was in real pain.

I went upstairs and asked my parents if they could take her in to get put down, I couldn’t see her like this any more.

With all the emotions going on after my parents had left (this was before everyone had cell phones) I realized I never said my goodbye to her directly. I never cuddled her little face and told her I loved her.

I wish I could do that.”

#10. My twin sister.

“My twin sister. She passed away when we were closed to our third birthday. I would tell her that I love her, and that there’s not a day that’s passed that I don’t think about her. I would also tell her that my daughter, who is close to turning three, looks just like her.”

#9. Never came home.

“My uncle. He went in for routine surgery, and never came home.

We had plans to open a bakery together. I would love to tell him they when I open a bakery, I’ll name it after him. Tell him how much I miss him. Fill him in on all the things in my life. To hear his soft voice, and his hearty laugh.

If I could just hug him one more time. Just see his silly smile…”

#8. And that would be nice.

“I’d tell my dad he should have divorced my stepmom long ago, since their toxic, fucked up relationship is likely the cause of his death.

Then I’d show him my house, my wife, my pupper, my career. That I’m not the total fuckup everyone thought I’d be.

After that, we’d have an awkward chat about weather or politics or whatever. And that would be nice.”

#7. Now we all want to know.

“Well, this is very timely for me, because my brother-in-law passed away two days ago and left us all with a lot of questions.

He died of a cancer none of us knew he had, he seemed (although now we are not 100% sure) fine up until the last few weeks (4 weeks? 5 weeks? 6 weeks? none of us are sure) when he became very withdrawn and essentially stopped eating.

We thought maybe he was severely depressed and we ended up bring him to the hospital only because he was so thin. We thought we would get him some IV nutrients, maybe some psych meds, and we would take him home in a few days.

Turns out he was already in multiple organ failure and he lost consciousness within hours and died a few days later. It took the doctors that long to even figure out what was going on.

Now, we all want to know – what did he feel? How much did he know? Why didn’t he go to a doctor? Cancer is normally a relatively slow death, but now we are left feeling like he was in some sudden fatal accident.”

#6. I didn’t suspect.

“My grandma, because the last time I saw her alive, I didn’t suspect that this would be the last time before she died and so I didn’t properly say goodbye to her.”

#5. About our daughter.

“My partner passed away after giving birth not so long ago, so I’d speak to her and tell her about our daughter.”

#4. I wouldn’t say anything.

“my Dad.

I wouldn’t say anything. I’d just listen to him talk about anything he wanted to say.

edit: Dad died January 28, 2018.”

#3. Our best lives.

“My Mom.

I would tell her that even though we miss her everyday, we are all living our best lives and we are happy.

Her life’s goal was to make sure her family was happy, and I know before she died (cancer) she was more worried about all of us and how we would handle it than she was about herself.’

#2. I’d just want him to know I never gave up.

“Fuck, I didn’t know I would have to feel feelings today.

My best friend since childhood died of cancer when we were in 10th grade after 3 long years. His dad taught me guitar, we were always starting bands, writing songs, there for each other through some pretty dark shit. We always talking about the music we’d make together. When he died, he was surrounded by his dad and uncles who were all playing music and singing to him.

I’d just want him to know I never gave up. I’m not a professional musician, but I’m still making music and working hard at it.”

#1. He was a good boy.

“My dog Snoopy. He was with me for almost 17 years and I would love to just be able to tell him he was a good boy.”

It never hurts to be prepared, right?