They Asked Their Sister and Her Family to Move Out After Three Years of Supporting Them After a Tragedy. Are They Wrong?

There comes a time when you have to put your foot down if a situation has gone on long enough.

And that can be an especially difficult thing to do if you have to do it with family members.

But that’s exactly what happened and this person now wants to know if they crossed the line.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA for asking my sister and BIL to move out after three years of supporting them after family tragedy?

“About 3 years ago, my sister and her husband lost their three young children in a really bad car accident.

My sister barely survived but pulled through. They had two daughters who were 8 and 6 and a 3 year old son. I won’t go into specifics surrounding the accident or their d**ths because it’s quite frankly horrific.

My sister and I are 10 months apart and have always been extremely close. At the time of my nieces and nephews d**ths, I was living alone in a 3 bedroom home and offered for them to live with me. They were both, understandably, too unable to function to go back to work and we all needed each other. I didn’t want them to have to worry about money or losing their home after what had happened.

I’ve supported them emotionally and financially pretty much ever since it happened. They both refuse to go to therapy, and still both aren’t working. I have a good job, but it’s not an easily manageable thing, and I really didn’t expect it to go on so long.

About a year and a half ago, I met my current fiancé. We clicked immediately and got engaged six months later. We’re due to get married next October. I’ve been trying to drop hints to my sister about wanting my house back to myself to live in with my fiancé but she’s not picked up on it. My fiancé has grown increasingly frustrated with me, saying I’m very obviously being taken advantage of.

Last weekend, I straight up told my sister I needed to talk to her, and told her that I wanted my house back and to live with my partner alone before getting married and starting to have children.

She got upset and went running to our mom, who called me an a**hole for not considering how my sister would feel about that. It hasn’t been mentioned since, but both my sister and BIL are hardly talking to me.


Now it’s time to see what Reddit users thought about what happened.

This person said they’re NTA and that maybe it’s time for their mother to take them in.

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Another reader said that they’ve been more than generous for allowing them to stay there for this long.

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And this Reddit user said they need to give them 30 days notice and that they are being used.

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What do you think about what went down?

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