We hear a lot about toxic masculinity these days, but there are also a lot of toxic femininity issues that need to be addressed, ya know?
So let’s take some time to see what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.
1. Interesting.
“I’ve seen a lot of women hating on other women comments but a more specific instance is older women treating their younger women colleagues like s**t. The meanest people in my workplace haven’t been men, but older women.
If anyone wants an example my friend (young, blonde, very cute/attractive) isn’t a sweets person so didn’t eat cake whenever someone had birthday in the office An older woman who worked there for 30+ years would always
embarrass her in front of everyone and put her down for not eating the cake. Insults would be along the lines of “oh these young girls nowadays so obsessed with calorie counting. I’m not worried about that” etc..”
2. Just doing your best.
“I’m in medical school, and if I had a dollar for every time some other woman (often not even parents) told me that they feel sorry for my children, I could pay my tuition.
If you work, you’re a bad mom, but if you stay at home you’re a bad feminist. I had another mother ask me if I resented my kids for putting my career on hold when I did stay home for a while.
It’s insane and we need to accept that people can have jobs or stay home, and that choice is no one else’s business.”
3. Here comes the drama.
“Treating their bf/husband like their own personal bodyguard and expecting them to defend them physically if they start some drama.
I once dated a girl like this. We’d go out, she’d have a couple drinks and then get loud/confrontational with strangers on the street and expect me to jump in and ‘fight for her.’ She would literally pick fights with people at a bar or nightclub just to start some drama and then say something like, “Oh yeah? Well my boyfriend here will kick your a**!”
Ummm, no I won’t. I have no desire to fight some random stranger just because you can’t control your attitude or handle your drinks.”
4. Gross.
“I work in the service industry and it is alarming how many times I get s**ually a**aulted by women of all ages.
Also, it might just be the industry I work in that attracts a certain kind of person, but overentitled women are easily 80% of my negative customer interactions.”
5. The boss.
““Boss b**ch” mentality.
Most of these “boss b**ches” would be a nightmare to work for, struggle with work/life balance and have an exaggerated sense of their own importance. It’s like I say about men, if you have to call yourself the alpha…”
6. Gossipy.
“Gossip, s**t-talking and using these to character a**assinate people who do not conform to your world view.
S**t shaming others while simultaneously advocating for more s**ual freedom for yourself.”
7. A competition.
“Why is everything a competition?
I made the mistake of saying I can’t have kids. My body is f**ked six ways to sunday and trying to carry a child would cause indescribably agony and severe damage to my body, if it wouldn’t outright k**l me.
I got harassed by women who needed me to know that “technically” I can have kids, so I should shut up and let the infertile people be the only victims in town.”
8. I love you.
“Having worked in a predominantly female setting for the last 20 years, I’ve noticed a real toxicity where they all seem to sort of h**e Treating their bf/husband like their own personal bodyguard and expecting them to defend them physically if they start some drama.
And then they go home and tell their partners how much they h**e each other.
Whatever that’s called. That.”
9. Birth.
“A lot of women’s attitudes towards birth are extremely toxic.
A good friend went into labor recently. I texted her the next day to ask how it went, and she responded “horribly”. Alarmed, I called her, and she tearfully explained that she had to have a c-section. Like, the baby was fine, my friend was fine, but there had been an irregularity during the delivery so they did a c-section.
My friend said she felt like she’d “failed as a mother” because she hadn’t “been able to” have a natural birth (as though she had any amount of control over that).
It’s not just c-sections either. I once had a coworker who would brag about the fact that she’d had all four of her children without an epidural. She thought any woman who did have an epidural was an inferior parent. I’ve heard similar things about hospital births in general – you’re not a “real mother” unless you give birth at home with a dula.
Calm the f**k down y’all, birth is hard enough as it is without adding all these weird, arbitrary conditions of suffering the mother has go endure lest they be tarred and feathered.”
10. The kid game.
“Everything kids-related, honestly.
Mothers who judge you for not wanting children, and who think that you’re not a real woman if you don’t want any yourself.”
11. True.
“Hypocrisy on s**ual and or v**lent crimes against males.
It’s not okay to a**ault men and play the “but she’s a woman” card.”
12. Can’t have it both ways.
“Expecting men to be tough and always reliable while asking them to also be soft and open.
I’ve seen plenty of relationships break down after a guy actually opened up about his feelings.”
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