I’m gonna go on the record right here and now and say that I think it would be MUCH harder to be a woman in this crazy world.
But, that being said, there are still some things about being a man that are tough.
Read on to see what guys on AskReddit had to say about this.
1. Hmmm…
“Now that my kids are grown I have to wait a few weeks when an animated movie comes out so I can see it and not be the creepy solo older man at a kids movie.”
2. Your turn!
“Being expected to do the first move.
I’d love to be asked to go out on a date just once.”
3. Needs to change.
“The mental health of men isn’t taken seriously.
It is getting better, but I cant tell you how many awkward looks I’ve gotten talking about therapy.”
4. Something to think about.
“I’m a stay at home dad. Idk how to put it simply, or what the right term is, but I have been semi frequently harrassed, berated, and otherwise made to look foolish or feel ashamed because I’m a man who loves his babies.
Out at the park with my son? Poor guy has to be with his kids while the missus is at home. Must be whipped.
At the grocery store with the baby? Oh you’re so sweet doing this for your wife.
At the doctor doing checkups/shots? Random people saying I either dont know what I’m talking about, that I just think my son is special, that I cant be trusted to give info on their health because I’m not their mom, and that I “need to tell my wife that….”
Those arent bad, it’s just obnoxious. The part that really sucks a** is that my friends make fun of me for it, or when an argument happen they throw it in my face that I don’t have a job and therefore am not a real man.
Just the status quo of a man must work to death and a woman is the only one fit to stay home. Grinds my gears.
I know how to change a diaper, yes I’m happy, yes it was MY choice to stay home, no I dont mind not getting to f**k off with my friends all the time, yes I know how to deal with children’s medical issues, and no, I wouldn’t trade it for the world.”
5. Tall guy problem.
“Being of a certain height and build I’m expected to substitute as a forklift when necessary.”
6. I’m walkin’ here!
“I h**e that I walk faster than most people.
So, most of the time I end up walking up behind people. Men? Doesn’t matter. Women? It feels like I’m doing something wrong but I just want to get to my destination.
Am I crazy? Or does anyone else feel this?”
7. Need some comfort.
“Honestly… so few people care about how I’m feeling.
They ask how im doing and they wanna hear about all of the stuff that I’m actively doing. They dont wanna hear that I’m dealing with some emotional stuff.
In my ex relationship I was the one that had to make the moves, i was the one that comforted and i was the strong presence that could be learned on when in need. My ex got massages almost every night, every time she wanted one I would oblige, I loved to fold her into my arms and feel her melt into me and just be comforted. I was rarely comforted and I was rarely held, I was rarely massaged, i was rarely given affection outside of s** or the intimacy that I initiated.
Is it to much to ask for me to be given a bit of attention? A hug that’s not about me comforting her. I need hugs sometime… I have problems… I get fed up with work and life sometimes… sure I’m not perfect, I’m not the perfect boyfriend… but I try and I try to give everything I have… it’d be nice to not be given problems to fix or listen to and to just be comforted for a bit.”
8. A hassle.
“I like facial hair for the most part, and I’m glad I can grow it, but I wish it could be a little less persistent.
I’m not even a hairy guy.”
9. Sensitive.
“I’m very, very emotionally sensitive and people laugh at me for it.
Just the other day I made a post in a facebook group reviewing a restaurant I had a great experience in, and all these strange men and women made fun of me.
I wish I could blow it off but it hurt my feelings so bad, and I can’t just move on and shake it off. I wanted to either write every mean person who wrote, and tell them how much they hurt my feelings, or hurt them myself.
I still even get caught up thinking for hours sometimes about my bullies in primary school. I’m 31. Men can’t talk to anyone.”
10. Both of these things.
“When I get sweaty downstairs and my sack winds up stuck to my leg leading to that awkward need to adjust.
On a more real note, the expectation that I shouldn’t cry or show emotion about things. It really sucks.”
11. Expectations.
“The expectations that come with it (not saying there aren’t for women, both have them).
Society expects me to work my a** off to support a family even if it’s at the expense of my own well-being. I’m expected to like sports, cars, guns, and beer. I’m expected to not be emotionally vulnerable or sensitive.
Even from other men, I’m expected to be some s**-crazed animal that can’t help but make perverted remarks about/at any woman in view. And when you’re not these things, most people don’t know what to do with you.
I’ve found my people that do enjoy me for who I am, but these are all things I’ve experienced and still experience pretty frequently.”
12. Double standard.
“Being existentially alone when a problem arises.
This goes for both genders but particularly for guys. You may have a significant other you can vent to but at the end of the day the problem is yours simply because you’re a guy.
Some may think I’m blowing this out of proportion but when’s the last time you saw a man cry at work only to be rushed by coworkers to ease your sorrow?
How many guys could be visibly upset or sad around another group of guys – or if you do get emotional you know as a guy that’s not socially accepted and just hold it all in to not seem like a burden or weak to anyone else?
The double standard is pretty ridiculous.”
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