Have you ever been on a first date and you could just tell it wasn’t going well and the person you were with was giving off serious red flags that made you want to hit the road?
Sure you have! We’ve all been there!
And these AskReddit users were nice enough to tell us about their experiences with first date red flags.
Let’s see what they had to say.
1. What a catch!
“He stared at his phone the whole time.
Then after we parted he sent a text complimenting my a** and then said we should go out again.”
2. Gross.
“He smelled bad.
We were outside walking along an ocean break wall and I could smell him.
Yuck.”
3. Put on the spot.
“Met up with this guy from Tinder. After talking for a bit and having a coffee, he was like “want to meet my kid?”
I felt totally put on the spot and although I was clearly uncomfortable, I panicked and said I would. We went back to his place and I met the kid, she was actually pretty cool.
Then he sent her off to bed and proceeded to tell me that the mother of his child randomly dropped d**d in their kitchen one day, and now his kid didn’t have a mom. I looked around his place and there were pictures of said d**d mom everywhere.
I told him it was getting late and I was going to get going. Before I left he asked if he could stroke my stomach and pinch my a**. It was a very specific and super odd request. I said no.
The next day he sent me a text asking me if I would babysit his kid. Not even asking me on a second date…just asking for child care.”
4. Get away from this one.
“He started ranting, unprovoked, that dr**k drivers get punished too severely and about how it was “unfair” that he got punished because the prosecutor over his case had a daughter that was k**led by a dr**k driver so “he was biased.”
He told me that he had an 8 year old son (at the end of the date) and said “you don’t have to worry about him though, even though I have 50/50 custody I don’t go to see him.”
Looked him up on Casenet immediately afterwards and he had felony a**ault charges.”
5. NOPE.
“Went out with a girl who only talked about her ex-husband and his p**n addiction.
After listening for 2 hours about his Asian p**n collection, I nope’d out of there hard!”
6. HUGE red flag.
“Date went fine but on drive back he got into a road rage . He starting blasting though red lights and speeding and yelling.
I told him that I’m not putting my life in danger over a hissy-fit from a grown a** man. Nope”
7. See ya later.
“A few years ago I met up with a guy at a bar and the entire time he would not stop talking about how he couldn’t wait to go to Russia to get a bride.”
8. Not over her.
“I once went on a first date with a guy who was clearly not over his ex. He spent the entire time talking about her, comparing me to her, and even showing me pictures of them together.
It was a huge red flag for me and made it clear that he wasn’t ready for a new relationship. Needless to say, I didn’t go on a second date with him.”
9. I love you, Mommy.
“I went on a date with a guy who called himself a mama’s boy and said no woman would ever compare to his mother.
There was no second date, and despite how many times I turned him down and said I wasn’t interested, he kept calling and texting me for two years until I changed my number.”
10. Okay…
“He brought his two year old along on our date.
He then informed me he would be okay with me going out and partying for maybe one more year to “get it out of my system” but after that he expected me to settle down.
Then went on a strange rant about how important it is for women to “have their fun” before becoming moms so they are ready to be homemakers. I was 19 and also was not aware he even had a kid beforehand.”
11. Disgusting.
“At dinner, he shared with me that he didn’t believe in washing his hands after going to the bathroom, as long as toilet paper was used effectively, “hand washing was obsolete”.
He said all of this while licking his fingers and digging into a shared basket of appetizers. I was disgusted. Lol
Update – to answer the biggest questions. I had no idea that this would utterly disgust the masses haha!
We met at a work function and also had mutual friends.
We were in college at the time, way before covid!
And the topic came up because I pulled out a small bottle of hand sanitizer to use. He asked me why I used sanitizer. That’s what started this conversation!
And no, he was not joking or being sarcastic. He had a lot of quirky opinions.
Yes it was our first and last date. But we stayed friends and eventually lost touch. We are still Facebook friends.
Yes I stopped eating at that point. Not another bite! Haha.”
12. Too pushy.
“Met a stranger at the grocery store, and he asked me out for dinner.
Dinner didn’t go very well (he spent most of the date insulting me for being a vegetarian) and at the end of the night when we were walking back to our cars and saying bye, he asked if he could have a kiss. I said no.
He asked again. I said no. He said how about a peck on the cheek, so I go to do that and he turns and kisses my mouth quickly. Definitely knew there would be no second date after that.
I ignored all future texts. His last one said, “why does this always happen to me?””
Have you ever had an experience like this?
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