It’s a sad but true fact of life: married people have affairs. A LOT of them.
But every story is different and every person who is involved in a situation like that has their own reasons for doing it.
So let’s dive into some stories about affairs from people who were brave enough to talk about what happened.
1. Wanting justice.
“I caught my husband sleeping with s** workers. It was a few years ago when he was doing it. He kept lying about things I already knew the answers to. I wanted honesty and didn’t get it.
I found myself curious, wanting justice, and wanting to feel loved again. I had an affair with great s** and chemistry that showed me I deserved so much more emotionally. I’m not proud, but my affair helped me find myself again after infidelity.”
2. The hots.
“I got pregnant at 16 and later married my child’s father at 21.
At 24, I went to grad school and totally had the hots for my older professor. He would talk to me during stressful periods and was very accommodating about my situation. One night, he was looking over an assignment of mine and something just flipped.
It was seemingly innocent at first, but then it felt hot and steamy. Funny thing was, it made my s** life with my husband that much better. After two years, I finally felt ready to end it when I found out I was pregnant.
I told both partners separately and they agreed to be there no matter what. I ended up working things out with my husband. Funny thing is, it’s been three years and I still don’t know who the real father is.”
“Three months after giving birth to our son, my husband complained he wasn’t getting enough oral. I was a first-time mom and learning how to be a mother, a wife, and work full time, all while recovering from my C-section.
I found out a few weeks later that on his lunch break from work, he met a random woman from Craigslist for some oral fun. We are currently in counseling, but will most likely be divorcing.”
4. The other woman.
“I wasn’t the married party, but I was the other woman.
The affair happened with my colleague. We worked a high-stress job that involved heavy drinking after shifts. After spending so much time together, we both fell in love.
I moved overseas because of guilt and to give him space to think. He admitted he loved me and wanted to leave his wife, but she got pregnant and didn’t tell him until she was so far along that an abortion was basically not an option.
I severed all contact at that point. I run into him at parties every few years and it’s pretty apparent he feels trapped and discontent.”
“I had an affair because my partner always said, ‘The only reason I would ever leave you would be if you cheated on me.’ I had been trying to drive him away for years, but stuck around for our child’s sake.
I was hopeful that it would work and he’d finally let me go, but I still wound up having to walk out myself after he found out.”
6. Fell in love with her.
“I’m a 42-year-old mother of two and I recently left my husband. Our issues began a few years into our marriage when he had an affair with his close friend from college.
We worked through it and we were problem-free for the next three years. A few months before I started my affair, he started acting very weird. He encouraged me to dye my hair, change the way I dressed and such. I realized he was trying to make me look like his friend from college.
I got really upset, distanced myself from him, and actually started seeking comfort from my best friend. I fell in love with her and left my husband.”
7. Girls trip!
“I have always been attracted to women, which is something that my husband was aware of. I have always fantasized being with a woman. One day I met someone who started as a friend and we got very close.
We took a girls trip and let’s just say my lesbian fantasies came true. I did feel terrible afterward. I justified it to myself with the fact that the person was a woman and not another man. It did happen a few more times, but we stopped eventually.
At this point, I still feel guilty about it, but I try to just not think about it. However, I appreciate the s**ual experience I had with a woman, which is something I should have done more of before getting married.”
“I caught my dad making out with one of my mom’s best friends two months after their wedding.
She was even in the bridal party! My dad has always said he’s such a ‘great, devout, Christian man,’ so they always met at church to do their unholy, home-wrecking dirty deed.
One day, her kids and I caught them making out, half naked, in a broom closet in GOD’S HOUSE. My dad still denies it and still says he’s a devout Christian.”
“My boyfriend caught his dad eating out his niece by marriage the day his wife (my boyfriend’s mom) came back home in remission from a rare leukemia she developed after a broken leg.
And my boyfriend’s mom actually sent my boyfriend in the room to tell him dinner was ready. She’s gone now, RIP, and the family is torn apart. It’s my goal to keep a positive feeling of family for him while he mourns the loss and betrayal of his best friend.”
10. The affair.
“My father had an affair with his male high school best friend. The friend lived about five hours away by car.
We would visit him, his wife, stepson, and mother in-law. They would disappear for hours when we were all together. The stepson and I figured it out when we were around age 12 and we heard them fighting on the phone about love.
They stopped their two-hour-long, almost-every-night phone calls. Then my dad and I started visiting two times a year instead of every other month; then we stopped visiting them at all. They have since made up, but they’re not together anymore. I told my mother, and she doesn’t deny it.”
11. On the baby monitor.
“My dad cheated on his new wife.
I caught him in bed with another woman while I was away on a trip.
I saw it on the baby monitor.”
“Around Christmastime, I was in my room doing homework and my dad was in the office. I wanted to see if he was buying my gifts, so I decided to creep out and take a look.
Crawling on my hands and knees, I slowly inched my way toward the office. I caught him scrolling through escort websites and messaging girls. The number of b**bs I saw was traumatic.”
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