Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Calling Her Friend Irresponsible for What She Did While Babysitting Her Kid

If someone trusts you enough to let you babysit their kids, you better have your act together and not mess anything up.

We’re talking about the most important things in their life, after all…

So did this mom overreact when she called out her friend who babysat her child?

Get all the details below and let us know what you think.

AITA for calling my friend irresponsible for what she did while babysitting my child?

“I (F29) have a ‘phobia’ of horses. I put phobia in quotation marks because phobias are irrational fears, and I don’t think my fear is irrational, but everyone else in my life keeps calling it a phobia.

I do like animals, but horses are just not it for me. I don’t like being around them, and I have no interest in petting them or riding them.

When I was around 8 years old, a horse attacked me unprovoked and nearly k**led me, and I was hospitalised.

My best friend Eliza (F29) is the opposite to me. When we were in high school, she was your stereotypical ‘horse girl’. She owns some horses of her own now and is still obsessed with horses. I don’t interact with Eliza’s horses and never have. I respect that we can have our own interests, and Eliza and I have different things to talk about.

I have a daughter Tanya (F4), and Eliza occasionally kindly volunteers to babysit for me, Eliza has her own daughter of similar age and they play together nicely.

Last week, I asked Eliza to babysit for me so me and my partner could go to my cousin’s child free wedding, and she agreed. I paid Eliza to babysit and gave her some extra money to get herself and the girls takeout.

Well, when after I picked Tanya up and was driving home, Tanya was telling me about how she “sat on a horsey”. At first I thought Tanya was talking about a toy rocking horse, but then she told me about how she “fed the horsey some apples”.

When I got home, I called Eliza and asked if she had my daughter interact with her horses.

At first Eliza denied everything and said she didn’t know what I was talking about, but when I said Tanya told me about it, Eliza admitted she held Tanya whilst she was sat on one of her horses, and let Tanya help feed one of her horses.

Eliza went on and on about how safe it is, and that she was in complete control of the situation. That the horse was standing completely still when she held Tanya on the horse’s back.

I told Eliza that what she did was irresponsible and that doing it behind my back was unacceptable. I was so angry and uncomfortable. She said that I’m overreacting because of my phobia and said that Tanya was completely safe, and went on about how well-trained her horses are and how she knows so much about horses.

I said I didn’t care and that she should think about what she did.

My family thinks I overreacted and that I should apologise to Eliza. That I’m projecting my phobia onto my daughter.


Check out what folks had to say about this on Reddit.

This person said she’s NTA and that trust was broken here.

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Another Reddit user said they’d be upset if someone did this to their kids, too.

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And this individual said this was unprofessional and unethical.

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