Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Refusing to Drop Her Ex-Husband’s Last Name

What’s in a name…?

Apparently, a lot…well, at least that’s what it sounds like in this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page.

Check out this story and see if you think this woman is acting like a jerk!

AITA for refusing to drop my ex-husband’s last name?

“My ex-husband (who I’ll call him by his fake name Tony) and I broke up 2 years ago after 26 years of marriage. We have four children together.

Due to the stupidity of the time and social pressure, I added my husband’s last name to my name. So all my documents like identification, driver’s license, passport, all credit cards, voter registration card have his last name at the end.

We ended amicably even more due to the circumstances (he is gay) and we divorced.

Honestly, it would suck to have to change everything, go to government agencies, pay for everything new, go to the bank to change everything, so I didn’t want to take out his last name, but I introduce myself by my maiden name, only in the documents is it this name.

Tony is currently engaged to a guy and they are going to get married in the next year.

The situation that happened was:

Our son and his family decided to travel and invited me. He asked for my ID to make the reservations.

A few days later, me, Tony and fiance were at my grandson’s party. Our son said jokingly in the conversation circle that he couldn’t believe that until today I hadn’t changed my last name. I laughed, saying that I was too lazy to rush to change everything that has this name on it.

Tony started to ask if I really hadn’t changed my name, if I didn’t think that being engaged to someone else isn’t the best time to change it, and he insisted that it was weird of me.

I just replied: “Unless you can go in my place, spend hours and hours in lines, pay hundreds for it, I won’t do it in the near future”.

We stopped talking and the party flowed smoothly.

Later, he called me and said I was acting weird and a jerk by refusing to change the name, which he said was uncomfortable.

I asked our son and he said he understands my side of not wanting to do this, but he understands Tony’s side of being uncomfortable with his ex using his last name after the divorce.

So I ask for an outside opinion.


And here’s what Reddit users had to say.

One reader said she’s NTA and came up with a good suggestion for her ex.

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And this person said she’s NTA at all.

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Another individual said she’s NTA and shared their own story.

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