Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Refusing to Help Her Friend to Take Care of Her Baby

Asking someone to help care for a baby is no small thing.

In fact, it’s a pretty HUGE request.

So you can understand why someone would refuse to do that, right?

But does that make someone an a**hole?

Get all the details of this story below and let us know what you think in the comments.

AITA for refusing to help my friend take care of her baby after she kicked her boyfriend out?

“I (19f) recently got a call from my friend (Jess-23f) begging me to run to the shop for some baby formula, and other food essentials because she was so tired.

I agreed. I got her some stuff and dropped it off and offered to nurse the baby so she could have a shower and cook some pasta. She was super happy and took up my offer. This was at 4:15 and her boyfriend usually gets back from work at 5:30.

Jess has her shower and food and when it hits 5pm, I ask if she’s going to be ok for half an hour until her boyfriend gets home. She tells me she kicked him out because he went to visit his mother whilst he had the baby and he hadn’t asked her first.

I should be clear that I don’t have kids and never intend to and so I cannot pretend to know what goes through a new parent’s head but I found that whole thing so ridiculous. I said that’s so stupid of her because he clearly loves her and baby and he didn’t do it to be a d**k. Jess got mad and said I don’t get it.

We sat in silence for a few moments before she asked me if I could help her the next day with the baby. I said no. She got really upset and asked why. I told her she needs to beg her boyfriend to come back since the baby is both their responsibility and whilst I’ll help out every now and then, I’m not going to become a substitute parent when the baby clearly has two loving ones.

She told me to leave but then text me a few times later that day asking what days I was free the next week so she could get work done. I told her I love her, but she needs to get her act together and sort it out with her boyfriend.

She then went to the group chat and began asking our other friends for help and ‘accidentally’ mentioned what I had said to her. Everyone thinks I’m a huge a**hole and I can’t help but wonder if I am.

I want to be clear, Jess’ only qualms are that he went to visit his parents when he had the baby and that he didn’t ask her for permission first because she was dead asleep. She admitted he’s a great father who works hard to provide for the family. He’s not a disinterested bum or nowt.


And here’s how Reddit users reacted.

One person said she’s NTA and her friend is overreacting.

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Another individual also said she’s NTA and her friend’s boyfriend is going to still have to be involved.

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And this Reddit user also said she’s NTA and this is not her responsibility.

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