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I treat social media like I try to treat a lot of things in my life…use with moderation.
And it honestly kind of blows my mind that some people put their entire lives on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter and offer up way too many personal details and stories.
But that’s just me. Some people probably think I’m weird because I don’t really post very often at all.
Someone offered up their opinions on this matter on Reddit. Let’s take a look.
I would rather date someone with no social media presence than someone who posts several selfies a day across multiple social media platforms.
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Let’s see how people on Reddit responded to this.
1. Perfect for each other.
“I’m dating someone with no social media presence.
As someone with no social media presence, it’s great.”
2. It brought no joy…
“Since we met me and my wife have slowly whittled social media to practically nothing (each of us still technically have a FB account just to use messenger.)
We couldn’t be more happy about it, it was a presence in our life that brought no joy.”
3. Weird.
“Someone I dated called me an untrustworthy and shady because I don’t have any social media.
And then called me ‘so edgy’ (in a mocking type of way) because I once told them they didn’t have to take videos or pictures of me/us, or everything we’re doing every 5 minutes for Snapchat.
I don’t get it.”
4. Really?
“When I tried Tinder, a couple of my matches said that not having any social media was a massive red flag and meant I was probably a huge creep.
I just don’t have social skills and I’m super lonely so even if I did have an Instagram it would literally be empty. In my mind, that seems worse than not having one.”
5. Ugh. No way.
“The second week dating my ex, she publicly announced “you aren’t a good Instagram boyfriend, you haven’t been taking any pictures of me!”
Which I thought was a joke, but unfortunately wasn’t.”
6. Hahaha. Wow.
“I’ve dated both fairy recently.
The girl who posted selfies daily was kinda rude, selfish and very self absorbed.
The girl who had no social media was kinda rude, selfish and very self absorbed. She just got hella texts instead of DMs.
Man I really need to go after a different type of girl…”
7. Moderation.
“Moderation is key.
I’ve met people with no social media and it’s their identity. I’ve met people who only care about that filter life.
The people who I get a long with is the ones who know when to get lost in the moment, not the ones looking to “collect moments”.”
8. Wouldn’t it be nice?
“I think dating someone who barely uses or doesn’t have social media would be ideal.”
9. Part of the job.
“As a bartender that has to advertise, I wish I didn’t have to post selfies.
But it has kind of turned into part of the business.”
10. No thanks.
“It’s somewhat shocking to me how important social media has become for the average person.
I don’t like the idea of putting my entire life on a screen for any rando to peruse through and judge.
No thank you.”
11. Pretty annoying.
“I went to dinner with two friends before covid and they were both on their phones with social media and Pokemon Go at the table.
Found it rude that they couldn’t put their phones down considering we hadn’t seen each other face to face in months.
Felt like a third wheel to social media basically.”
12. A sign of the times.
“The reason why this opinion is unpopular is because these days, not having a social media presence has largely become socially unacceptable, to the point where it can be considered a “red flag” and lead others to find you “suspicious”.
Not having a smartphone and using a flip phone instead can cause even stronger reactions from others, including employers, who have unfortunately gotten used to being able to track, harass, and sometimes, force unpaid work on to their employees during their personal time.
FWIW I agree with OP 100%. In fact I’d personally take it a step further and say this applies to friends in general and not just dates.
Having friends that live vicariously through their phones blows – I’d much rather have friends who can enjoy the moment with me in real time.”
13. Here and there.
“I dont mind social media. I actually do enjoy it in moderation.
I like seeing how everyone’s doing, even though it’s always looking through rose tinted glasses. I like to post things every few months to document important events in my life. My boyfriend has a similar attitude toward social media and I really like that. Most of my friends are the same way.
It is always off-putting to me when people try to document all of our time together. It feels like they’re not really living it. They’re just documenting, and they’re doing it in a way that almost always feels forced or fake.
I’m the type of person who has so much fun i forget to snap a picture and then regret it later, because I wish I had something to help me remember the fun. But I like that better, because to me it means I really enjoyed myself.
I enjoyed it so much I wasn’t thinking about the future, or people I wasn’t with. I was 100% in the moment and thats a nice feeling.”
14. No FOMO.
“Reddit is the only social media I really use, gave up all the others for some time now.
They said there would be FOMO but life couldn’t be more enjoyable without it.”
Okay, now it’s your turn.
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