Maybe someone in my past has cheated on me or maybe they haven’t.
I’ll never know…
But I do know that some people out there give their significant others second chances after they’ve done the unthinkable…
But what happens after that…?
What happened after you gave your cheating partner a second chance?
AskReddit users shared their stories.
“A year later we broke up and six weeks afterwards she called and told me she’s pregnant. Might not be mine because the night we broke up she hooked up with some guy so she has no idea who the dad is. Turns out he wasn’t mine.
I’m now good friends with the dad, the boy turns ten in October and I’m his godfather. Dad is married, his wife is adopting the boy and the birth mother hasn’t seen him in six years.
Could have turned out worse. It’s been nine years and I haven’t dated since.”
2. Never been happier.
“My girlfriend and I started out long distance, and it was hard to pinpoint what our relationship actually was.
I was far from honest about not being with anyone else during the beginning. For the first couple years I was just being a ho, didn’t really consider that it would pan out, and was careless of her feelings. Apathy fueled by depression, and substance abuse; but that’s no excuse.
When I finally figured out that she was the one I truly wanted to be with, I admitted that I had been unfaithful. She sat me down and gave me one, and only one chance to come clean about every single thing. I figured she would end up leaving after hearing it all anyway, but it was better to do right by her, and be honest.
I’ve been faithful since, she moved 300km to live with me, we have 4 cats after merging our houses, and I’ve never been happier in my life. She’s already picked out her ring, and I’m going to propose in October when we’re on vacation in Mexico.
I plan to spend the rest of my life with her, doing whatever I can to reciprocate the positivity, and happiness that she’s given me.”
“It’s actually worked out really well.
We’re happy together and have been together 19 years.”
“She cheated again.
But she learned to cover her tracks better. I wasted the last 4 years of my life with her.
Never date a narcissistic person. Their whole existence is solely in function of craving attention.”
5. It’s over.
“My partner eventually talked to the guy she cheated on me with again – deleted the records of their online chatter – so I ended it.”
6. Bad news.
“Bad, she decided she wanted to wait for the other guy (who was married) to leave his wife which never happened.
Told me to move out and sent me into spiralling depression it took a few years to get out of.
Doing ok now though!”
7. Some things never change.
“Didn’t end well, he kept doing it.
He basically thought I would always be an option on the table regardless what he does.
I ended up having to leave him, which I should’ve done in the first place.”
“She started cheating a little before our 1 year marriage anniversary.
I found out fairly quick, gave her a second chance, and she did it again 6 months later on my birthday…with her (then)best friend’s husband.
I moved out immediately. Got diagnosed with cancer about a month later, and got served with divorce papers 2 weeks after that.
Cheaters are scum.”
9. A whirlwind of drama.
“I found out he was cheating on me in late 2016. A few weeks our 10 yr anniversary. 2017 was a whirlwind of drama.
Separated for a few months that summer but worked it out. This November we will be celebrating 15 years together. And we are the happiest and closest we’ve ever been. And I hope it stays that way.
I do still have a little residual trust issues and learned to listen to my gut instinct more. But so far everything has been good and hope it stays that way too.”
10. Turning it around on you.
“She divorced me as she just could not believe that I could have friends or work with people without cheating!
Helloooooo, it wasn’t me who did it!”
“She cheated again.
No big surprise.
As the saying goes, once a cheater always a cheater.”
12. Did it again.
“She cheated on me again. Left her for good. Worst part is she was my best friend before we got together.
She was an awesome friend, but a s**tty gf. She was my first serious relationship, and for a long time I thought I could have done more to keep her faithful, but I eventually realized that she could have just broken up with me instead of cheating, and it wasn’t my fault at all.
She is married now, and I hope for both their sakes that she cleaned up her act. Being young is no excuse, and being cheated on is one of the worst feelings ever.”
Did you ever give a partner a second chance after they cheated?
If so, tell us what happened.
Do it in the comments, please!