Yes, men and women are very different. However, that doesn’t mean we don’t crave and need the same kind of love and appreciation. These brave men on AskReddit opened up about things they struggle with and think about that women may not be aware of.

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#1. You Are Beautiful To Me

“20 years passed before I was told by a woman other than my mother that I was handsome. If you think a guy is handsome TELL him. Chances are he hasn’t heard it in a long time. Obviously some women aren’t very often told that they’re beautiful, and some men are told that they’re handsome all the time but it seems to me there’s still a large discrepancy there.”

#2. Emotional Support Is Hard To Find

“Guys have zero emotional support structure. Like, fuck. Anytime I try to tell anyone I have real emotions or opinions I get shot down to the point where I don’t really feel safe talking to anyone anymore. It’s easily the largest problem in my life, and from what I understand, I lot of guys have to deal with it through out their entire teenage/young adult life.”

#3. I Want You To Want Me

“That as men, we also want to feel sexually wanted too. I had an ex that was horrible, she’d complain about me not making it apparent enough and then she’d complain about me making it too apparent. She’d hate if I was too spontaneous but would then accuse me of being too predictable. Meanwhile, she only twice ever told me I was sexy or that she really wanted me…and that was exclusively in the first month. After a while it was only ever me pursuing her, and her not even bothering to care about pursuing me. After a year and a half I realized how low my self esteem had fallen in that regard and started to emotionally disconnect from her.”

#4. Children Are Cruel

“How much interactions with girls during puberty shape us for our whole life. Ever touched a girl on the arm and she said ‘Eww, yuck!’? Well, we’ll be forever shy in that regard. Girls telling you that you’re weird? We’ll always try to appear not weird.”