All double standards suck for the people on the wrong side of them, but some just stick out like sore thumbs because so many of us are affected by the stupid unfairness of treating people differently in the same or similar situations.
Life isn’t fair, and things aren’t always going to be equal, but that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be equitable – and these 14 instances really need to change sooner rather than later.
14. They always catch the second person.
Someone can treat you however they want and nobody says a word, but the minute you say anything back you’re the villain. It makes me sick!
I’ve noticed that everyone loves to tell people to stand up for themselves, but the second someone stands up to them, all of a sudden they’re offended and somehow the victim.
Or when a family member is being a drama llama and everyone just lets them do what they want and when someone finally stands up to them, they’re the bad guy, they’re causing drama.
They know cousin Karen is insufferable, why did they have to confront her! Clearly, it’s their fault, not Karen’s.
13. Loyalty is not rewarded.
Business should do whatever it takes to get ahead, but if the employee tries to make their life better, or find a new job, they are lazy and ungrateful.
12. Baking is for everyone, same as eating.
Baking is for women. I love watching baking shows and seeing the creativity. I was recently inspired to make a father-daughter pact to bake something with my five-year-old daughter at least once a week.
Next weekend, I am teaching her to make a checkerboard pattern cake (teaching myself, too). Last weekend, we made homemade bread, and she has been asking for a slice of that bread with every meal until now it is almost gone.
11. It shouldn’t be a secret.
Recently on here there was a thread about employers hiding the pay for a posted position. Most people hated it as it was a waste of time to get to the point where they are willing to tell you the pay and it’s an insulting amount.
A few people were defending it. One guy said that it only makes sense for the employer to hide this from you and try to manipulate you about pay. From the employer’s point of view they need to pay you as little as possible and if they post a salary then people who want more than that will not apply (so no chance to underpay someone who is worth more) and they will have to deal with people who aren’t good enough for that [meager] salary.
So according to this guy, really, it’s for the best that they try to screw you with hidden a salary for job postings. He’s saying this as if we’re supposed to just agree with it and not stand up for ourselves and just bend over and take it.
But us demanding to know the salary during the first contact about a job? Unacceptable. How dare we try to interfere with the company trying to screw us.
10. Being famous shouldn’t have those sorts of perks.
A certain boomer rock star did a whole bunch of stuff to a girl aged 13 and yet not only did absolutely zero consequences happen, but people all over the world worship him to this day.
Imagine if that had been some everyday bloke with his neighbour’s daughter or something. He would have been absolutely crucified for far less.
9. This is the truth.
Child predators. Both men and women should receive the same charges.
Also – when abuse happens outside the family, it is the worst thing ever. But when abuse happens inside the family, people tend to say that it was not so bad or something…
It does not matter where the abuse happens, it is still abuse.
People should be held more accountable for their actions.
8. My eyes just popped open.
MD/DO have to do 4 years of medical school
3 years of residency ( minimum can vary by speciality )
X years of fellowship (varies by speciality)
12,000 hours minimum not including fellowship which varies
To practice independent
Nurse practitioners complete a 18-24 month program with 500 hours and can practice independently in 28 states
7. One would hope, anyway.
I’m a straight male. I went to a gay bar with some gay women and their straight married women friends. One of the straight women was being basically sexually harassed by another gay woman there, to the point of being chased around the table, all the while saying she was married to a guy and she wanted nothing to do with it.
The whole bar was laughing. If I did that to a woman in a regular bar, I’d get my ass kicked, thrown out, or arrested.
6. People look the other way.
Wealthy people don’t seem to be accountable for white collar crimes like poor people who commit petty crimes. Wealthy people get huge tax breaks and can spend more money on themselves or invest to make even more. Investments are taxed at lower rates so people that can afford to invest make even more. Meanwhile those at the bottom get no wage adjustments for inflation while the cost of everything else increases from inflation.
Benefits and pensions are cut so the wealthy get rich from the profits as a result of lower pay and benefits. Corporations can move to tax sheltered countries to avoid paying more taxes. The average person gets none of this and is paying more out of pocket. Look at Bernie Madoff who went for years stealing other people’s money and no prosecutions from the 2008 financial crisis. I guess it’s easier to go after the poor, powerless and weak.
Update: Thanks to everyone for the responses. I wasn’t expecting this at all. I signed up on Reddit only 5 days ago. I know Bernie Madoff is not the best example but my main point with him is that there was evidence for decades of fraud but nothing happened and the victims won’t fully recover their losses. This could have been prevented had law enforcement followed up. I do know that the IRS and other agencies don’t have the resources but I wish this would change.
I understand that some may work hard and get ahead but that doesn’t change the fact that the tax burden has shifted from wealthy and corporations to individuals over the last 50 years shrinking the middle class and widening income gap between rich and poor. Low pay and reduced workforce = big profits for shareholders and ceos. These are the people that can afford to do investments and make more increasing their pay. CEO pay today is 300x what the average worker gets in pay. If this was reversed to what it used to be, we would not see the income inequality we have today. Just my thoughts based on what I read from economists.
5. Still not allowed.
I was an exotic dancer through much of my 20s and 30s. All clubs (in the city where I worked) have strict rules about touching, taking pictures in the club, etc.
Women would come in and think the rules didn’t apply to them.
Like, no, Sarah, I don’t want you to post selfies of you trying to suck my t*tty in the VIP any more than I wanted the old guy who looks like my dad to. Yes, you’re getting 86’d too.
4. This probably happens a lot.
I’m a young guy.
One of my female coworkers slapped my a$s about a month ago.
I didn’t say anything because I really didn’t care too much, but if the roles were reversed I’d be out of here faster than I could say sexual harassment.
3. Common courtesy should go both ways.
When I leave a job, I’m generally expected to give 2 weeks notice so the company isn’t left without essential things being done.
When a company decides to let me go though? No warning to start putting in applications or saving more money. You’re just gone. Total horse sh%t.
2. I mean, I have an issue.
Cigarette butts. They’re not biodegradable and it’s a fire hazard. We have issues with coffee cups, plastic bottles, etc, But we’re totally fine with cigarette butts. If you’re a smoker, make sure it only hurts you and nobody else.
1. A modern tale.
Saying COVID-19 is a hoax but being top of the list for a vaccine.
I’m all for chucking these right off a cliff. Is there a petition?
What other double standard should we slash while we’re at it? Drop your suggestion in the comments!