14 People Share the Cold, Hard Facts of Life They’ve Learned

Everyone has different upbringings, but I was lucky enough to be raised by optimistic, positive, and decent parents so I probably naively thought that certain things in life were going to be much easier and smoother than they’ve turned out to be.

But, you live and you learn…

And sometimes, the cold, harsh reality of life smacks you right in the face and teaches you a major lesson.

AskReddit users went on the record and admitted the harsh facts of life that they’ve learned. Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Just the way it is.

“It’s something adults always say, but life isn’t fair.

At the end of the day, the people who take advantage over others are almost always going to be the most successful if they get away with it.”

2. Are you listening?

“People mostly just wait for their turn to talk, they only rarely listen you you.”

3. Sad, but true.

“If you’re doing something right nobody ever notices, its only when you screw up that people notice.”

4. Up to you.

“The only person you can depend on is you.

Friends that you thought you’d have forever will move away and lose touch and (not to be morbid) people close to you will die.

With this in mind, you have to do what is best for you:

Don’t let your caring for these people hold you back because one day you’ll realize they’re gone and that you never got to do the things you wanted to do.”

5. Hard truth.

“My obesity is my own fault.

A bit of background, 8 years ago I was diagnosed with PTSD after leaving a seriously abusive relationship, since then it’s been purely emotional eating.

Until recently I blamed my weight on the PTSD/stress and found excuses but this last year I’ve been mentally healthy and found I have less and less bad days. That being said I’m still over weight and I’m still overeating.

I live alone so I have no one to fell guilty in front of but genuinely feel so low after a binge and end up really disgusted with myself.

I’ve tried so many times to start up but the motivation leaves me so quickly its pathetic.”

6. Get used to it.

“You’re stuck with yourself for the rest of your life, no one else.

So you’d better like it.”

7. A tough one.

“My parents are getting older and that scares me.

I’m not ready for them to go.

I would gladly give them some years off my life so they can stay with us a little longer.”

8. You gotta find the bright spots.

“That I’m going to die alone and no one is going to care.

I’ve long since given up trying.

Let it end.”

9. Better people.

“Some people are better than other people, naturally.

This isn’t based on race/gender/s*xuality/economic circumstance or anything like that.

But some people are born better.

All humans aren’t equal in terms of their potential and aptness– even if they should be treated equally legally/socially/morally.”

10. Watch your back.

“You need to watch your own back because no one else has your back.

Even the best of friends will eventually backstab you if the need for it arises.”

11. Good point.

“Family isn’t always there for you.

Sometimes you have to either go it alone or make a DIY family.

And so I did.”

12. True for a lot of people.


Your boss doesn’t care about you.

Your government REALLY doesn’t care about you.”

13. Believe in yourself.

“You are your biggest cheerleader, and the best person you can trust.

I just learned that my best friend of six years, who I trusted with anything for a long time, was manipulating me and spreading rumors behind my back for nearly a year, and she is the reason some of my other friends don’t talk to me anymore.

I’m in high school, so I thought these people would be like those people my parents talk about, the people they’ve been friends with since they were 14 or 15 or 16 and never fell out of touch with.

C’est la vie, I guess.”

14. It’s up to you.

“If you are looking for someone to blame for your problems, look in the mirror.

If you want a solution to your problems, look in the mirror.”

What’s a hard fact of life that you’ve learned?

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