People are single for all kinds of reasons and you can never assume anything about anyone who is not in a relationship at any given point in time.
And today we’re gonna get real with some folks who are gonna come clean about exactly why they’re on their own.
Take a look at what they had to say.
Despite often getting along with women, I never had one express interest in me.
Even if they did, I wouldn’t believe them.”
2. Gave up.
“After many attempts at asking girls out and each one rejecting me I basically gave up trying.
Tried advice my friends gave me and still wasn’t successful. The last girl I’ve tried asking out was in like 2018, she said something like “I don’t want to be in a relationship while in school.” (Fair reason, I’m not going to push someone to go out with me, I’ve got better things to do)
Then she proceeded to complain about not finding/ having the love of her life on Facebook. After that I just told myself “If someone actually is interested in me they can ask me out, it’s not worth wasting my time continuing getting rejected and hoping the next time won’t be a rejection.”
Honestly I’ve probably met a few girls that would have gone out with me but I’m just fed up being rejected and others telling me “One day you’ll find that special someone, you just can’t give up.”
Well sorry to break it to you but I’d much rather have failed inventing the lightbulb a thousand times over being rejected everytime over the course of 2015 to 2018. (If I had to guess I’ve probably asked out around ~10 girls in that time frame never kept count).”
3. Can’t do it.
“I just can not seem to ask a guy out.
I used to be able to when I was d**nk, but since I stopped drinking my nerves just make my brain comatose.”
4. Taking time off.
“My girlfriend dumped me in April due to mental health problems and I’m taking a year off dating cause I haven’t been single for more than 6 months since I was 18 (I’m 22 now).”
“My last girlfriend and I had a really tumultuous and toxic relationship that went on for 4 years longer than it should have (we dated for four years).
She was the first person to ever cheat on me, and it was equally fu**ed up because before we met the guy that she had lost her virginity to and was her first boyfriend had cheated on her with her roommate and she walked in on it.
I couldn’t get her out of my head for years, so I never stopped talking about her to people, I couldn’t stop no matter how hard I tried. I could relate her to literally anything.
My job and location also made it difficult for me to go out and meet anyone. I lived in the NYC suburbs in NJ and worked 12 hour shifts (7 am to 7 pm) which was Wednesday to Friday and every other Saturday. We rotated between day and night shifts (7 pm to 7 am) every six months.
My day shifts were usually January to June, so right as summer was getting good I was sleeping all day. A lot of the time I was beat, on my days off I just wanted to sit home and relax, since getting to the city took like a half hour each way.
I moved to NYC right before the pandemic hit the NE US and then had to spend the next year or so doing nothing while stuck in my apartment.
I switched jobs a few months ago so now I have a normal 9-5 M-F shift which is a lot less stressful and have been going out pretty much every night. I’m also getting way more matches than I have been for the past four years.
My problem now is I don’t care about most of the women I’m talking to so it goes nowhere. The ones in attracted to I don’t hear anything from, so I guess my standards are pretty high now since my ex was hot.”
6. Love hurts.
“I’m a single dad—shared custody with a week on, week off schedule. My weeks with my daughter I prefer to focus on her. My weeks without her, I prefer to focus on me.
The last two girlfriends I had both ended for the same reason. Both expected that the weeks I don’t have my daughter, I dedicate to them.
In a way, I don’t blame them. If you like someone, you want to spend time with them. But for me, it’s such a burden between work and trying to get enough sleep and stay on top of reading and playing music. I need a few days where I don’t have anything I need to do or any obligations. And when you are a dad with a girlfriend, you never get those days.
They always say, it’s fine if you want alone time, just say so. So I would, and it would blow up. I’m also not good with heavy emotions. I can discuss issues, but when the tears and yelling and stuff starts, I’m just like… ugh, no thanks.
I’ve broken the hearts of some beautiful women—which is weird because I’m a middle aged dude who’s a little chubby. Sometimes I’m like, man just deal with it. Who wouldn’t want a gorgeous woman to love them? But eventually it just gets too hard and I bail. I don’t want to hurt people so I’m just gonna be single for a while.”
“I’m single because while I was working, paying ALL the bills, taking care of our children, and doing what I could to make her life easier, while dealing with crippling mental health issues, she took a massive paycut to work for the dude she was banging…”
8. Sums it up.
“This sums it up so well: Once you get used to being by yourself and doing everything by yourself, it’s a hard habit to break.”
“I’ll equate mine to not being able to pick up on signals when a woman is hitting on me.
I’m pretty dumb when it comes to social cues.”
“Don’t meet many people I can connect with (I have high and weirdly specific standards).
When I do meet someone I like, there’s always some logistics/timing s**t that prevents things from getting anywhere.
Terribly terrified of getting hurt so I will not get in a relationship until I’m absolutely sure. Unfortunately it’s not easy to be sure.”
11. Once was enough.
“Because I spent a fortune divorcing 2 husbands who wanted to stay married and I HOPE I won’t do that again!”
12. A lot of reasons.
“I don’t want kids.
That narrows 90% of women out of my dating pool and ended my last (amazing) relationship.
I also won’t date a woman who isn’t athletic. That takes care of the majority of the rest.
My life consists of Work – Gym – Bed – Repeat.
I dont go to bars. I dont know where this mythical land called “out” is. I am also SLIGHTLY on the autistic spectrum and cant tell if a woman is into me or not. I also suck at flirting.
Oh and Tinder/online doesn’t work for men unless you’re a Calvin Klein model who is over 6′ tall.”
13. Choose yourself.
“I keep going for the wrong men, so now I’m just choosing myself for a while. I can’t handle all the pain and heartache. I h**e feeling so minimized and unimportant by someone that I find so special. I am also special.
I would love to meet someone sweet that I can get an apartment with and maybe a cute dog. Go on adventures together, travel, cook good food and watch weird documentaries with. Maybe have a hobby project together. I dunno.”
14. The weird kid.
“Because I was “the weird kid” since 2nd grade and homeschooled from 6th-11th and never really learned the same social skills at the same rate as most people so I’m trying to catch up.
Which is not to say I’ve never dated, I’ve had like a dozen relationships in the last 17 years or so, but even now I just don’t really know how to approach someone I’m interested in and usually lose touch in time. It’s a confidence thing, I never learned the confidence to be smooth.”
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