We all worry a bit too much about how we come off around other people. What they think about us, whether or not they like us, that sort of thing.
And if you’re someone who needs other people to at least respect you in a business capacity, well, then appearing confident and cool is probably extra important to you.
So, here are 15 behaviors the people of Reddit say you should definitely avoid.
15. Power trips are a dead giveaway.
I mostly see this at work.
– People who are in upper management and treat people like garbage just because they can.
– Being unnecessarily mean, rude or bitter to people.
– Treating new employees like garbage just because you’re threatened they might take your job some day.
14. Sometimes it just is.
People who automatically assume that if you disagree with them, you must have a subjective, personal reason to do so, if possible even related to your own insecurities. Simply not true.
13. Good intentions aren’t actually worth a whole lot.
I’ve found that a lot of people on Twitter that feel the need to post about how great of a person they are and they have nothing but good intentions are usually the most toxic people I’ve seen
12. Those poor children.
I deal with insecure moms a lot, either at the playground or mommy groups. They’re insecure about what milestones their child is hitting and how they are doing as a mother.
One of the biggest tells is when they brag about something that’s clearly a lie, or even a partial truth.
“My 3 year old is reading at a first grade level!” Ok but he’s eating grass right now and just pooped himself.
You see it a lot on social media now.
“My 20 month old is potty trained!” Having several accidents a day and needing a diaper whenever she sleeps is not potty trained.
Yeah moms are pretty judgy and many mommy groups are toxic but most of can tell when you’re lying and it screams insecure.
11. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Just not shutting up about yourself. Constantly lifting yourself up and comparing yourself to others, while pushing them down.
10. If you’re good at something, people will figure it out on their own.
Constantly wedging “humble bragging” into conversations.
9. If you think it is, you’re probably right.
This is a self roast but I think I degrade myself just to hear others deny it, is that insecure?
8. Just say no to this crap if you want to be happy.
When people have and insist on constantly checking on their SO via some tracking app on their phone.
It’s one thing to have it and use it in case of emergency, but using it while out with your friends to make sure he’s actually at work is creepy and super insecure.
7. Try not to over think it.
When you question yourself “do they actually like me or are they pretending to?” or when you think you’re gonna bother other people if you talk to them
Edit: Jesus Christ. I wasn’t expecting so many replies.
I hope you all are doing great.
6. Life isn’t a competition.
People who always have to one up you in everything if you tell a story they have a better one, if you buy something expensive they have to be something even more expensive. Some people’s whole life is trying to win some non existent competition.
5. Try to see the glass half full.
Automatically assuming negative intent.
You friend didn’t pick your call?
“Fuck her, she’s trying to avoid me. I don’t care about her anyway.”
4. You shouldn’t have to try so hard.
Trying to dominate conversations (not to be confused with just being a charismatic person).
3. Most people aren’t lookin for the bad.
As an insecure person, I find it hard to look people in the eyes. I also find it hard to tell any stories about myself, because I’m afraid people will think I’m lying, or that I won’t be part of the group because of personal differences. I always think everyone is better than me; I can see all the good in everybody, but I know that they see all the bad in me. Insecure people stand in the corner and don’t join the group.
2. Like who you are now.
I used to be very insecure so I’ll go from my own experience. Lying about something to seem cool. It’s very obviously a signal of insecurity because they don’t like who they are now.
1. The vague posts are the worst.
All those people who post on Facebook those quotes that are like: ‘don’t worry about those who talk behind your back, they’re behind you for a reason’
Or they tag themselves into any and EVERY place including the docs/hospital/somewhere personal. Then when someone asks if they’re ok they reply with: ‘don’t ask hun xoxox’
Urgh so basically. People who live their lives through very active social media’s I suppose I’m trying to say.
I’m surprised by some of these, but I think they’re spot on!
How do you spot insecurity? Is it an important trait to sniff out? Let us know in the comments!