Some people love to argue, some do everything in their power to avoid arguments. Either way, sometimes, you just can’t avoid it. That’s why the tips below will allow you to hone your argument skills and help you to be more convincing so you can win those inevitable arguments, whatever they’re about.
Read on, and get ready to debate!
1. Know your opponent’s personality type
If you know your opponent’s personality, use it to your advantage. Most people fall into two categories: reactive or analytical. Use techniques that appeal to their personality. If they are more thoughtful, appeal to their analytical side.
2. Use empathy in your argument
You should use specific examples about people rather than generalizing to make a point. Most people tend to relate to an individual rather than a group. Also, get a little more detailed about a person to make them seem more familiar to the person you’re arguing with.
3. Be a storyteller
Instead of bogging down your argument with statistics and figures, compile all your knowledge and facts and create a compelling story. Narrative-driven delivery styles are often hard to beat.
4. Remain calm
This one is a lot easier for some people than others, but it is a crucial part of a victory strategy. Remain calm, talk slowly, listen, and keep your emotions under control. A raving lunatic never looks good during an argument.
5. Practice your delivery
The more you practice, the better you get. This is true for anything, including arguing and debating. Work on your delivery so it becomes second nature and you don’t second guess yourself. The more put together your delivery is, the more convincing you will be.
6. Know your opponent’s moral identity
Different people view the world in various ways, which is why it’s important to know exactly who you’re up against. For instance, liberal people might be more swayed by compassion and fairness, while a more conservative person might be swayed by loyalty and authority. If you know what your opponent values in life, it will help frame your questions and delivery.
7. Use physical cues
Body language is extremely important when arguing/debating with someone. One way to try to connect with a person is to mimic their movements, such as crossing your legs if they do or folding your arms. Maintaining direct eye contact with your opponent while they speak may influence them and cause them to have reduced confidence in their own argument. Also, eye contact will make you appear stronger.
Think you’ve got it? Debate – ON!