In my view, people struggle enough with self-esteem and loving themselves without bringing other people’s judgement into it.
Society-at-large just can’t seem to help itself from passing those judgements, though, and it can really suck the joy out of the world for people.
If we want to be happier, and freer, people say judging other folks for these 11 things really has to go.
11. Anything you can’t control.
The way you look in any form that was a result of your genetics.
The way you look period. Some people dress a certain way because they’re depressed, some because they want to be different. Some people have much bigger fish to fry than putting on appearances for others.
10. Especially for men.
Being short.
It’s amazing that it’s socially acceptable to make fun of a short male like everyone is in on the joke.
Those same people would never make fun of someone to their face who is obese or has a birth defect or acne, etc, but being short is obviously something a person has no control over.
9. No way to fix it.
Receding hairline, is just natural man.
8. It’s ok to say goodbye.
Not associating with a toxic family or family member.
The “blood is thicker than water” thing is bs. Some families are abusive, manipulative, neglectful, etc.
If you choose not to have them in your life, that’s perfectly ok.
7. There are all sizes of everything.
Small d*cks, yes it’s tiny I GET IT.
6. Liking anything, really.
Liking pretty things. Too many people have this idea that pretty things are childish and you need to be moody and ironically dark.
FOOL, LOOK AT THAT BEAUTIFUL FLOWER AND STOP PRETENDING TO BE MISERABLE BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE.
5. People are doing their best.
being poor
It’s not a choice, I am doing the best I can and just because I receive food stamps or any other type of assistance doesn’t make me a POS. I see a lot of hate for poor people, like we are supposed to fit this stereotype with dirt on our face and stained up clothes.
It isn’t so far fetched to think my ‘designer’ clothes come from a thrift store, my nails are press on from the dollar store and my iphone is so old it still has a headphone jack.
4. This should not be awkward.
Buying condoms. Please, it’s really important.
3. It’s really none of your business.
Being a virgin
p*nis/breast size
Whether we’re wearing makeup or not being allowed to wear makeup
Having the next shiny gadget that will get replaced soon
Having and expressing your emotions without being called a bi*ch or a pansy
2. It’s just natural.
teeth, they aren’t meant to be fully white and perfectly aligned, having some skewness and discoloration is ok as long as its not affecting you.
1. There’s no one route.
Where you should be success-wise at a certain age. I’m 23, graduated college, but couldn’t get a job in my field right after graduating. I’m living with my parents to save money on rent, working at a restaurant, and growing my skills that I learned from college, while working on myself. I’m severely insecure and realized recently that for the past ten years, I have been constantly striving for a level of perfection that is absolutely impossible and calling myself a failure for it.
I woke up to the realization that I was getting serious anxiety and was limiting everything I did. It’s just that I’m not exactly ready for the world of adults. I’m terrified and unsure and it doesn’t help hearing people despair over how they “ruined their lives” when they aren’t that old. The pressure to get somewhere in two years demotivates me sometimes. It’s something I’m fixing, but I don’t like hearing people force time limits on others and reprimand them if they never fulfill it or haven’t.
I saw a post here about a few days ago asking 25-year-olds how they screwed up in their lives (or something along those lines) as if 25 is the deadline for achievements.
It’s good to have deadlines, but everybody grows at their own pace and has roadblocks in their lives that slow them down. Heck, the human brain apparently doesn’t stop developing at 25 and grows even after 60 years old. Some people genuinely do try but get so discouraged that they give up and then get ridiculed for not doing anything. I only learned recently that my 30-year-old cousin just got over a terrible drug addiction that cost his job and almost his livelihood for years. But he got out, finished college, and is a changed man getting better jobs and doing better.
There’s always time.
I am in, y’all. I say, if no one is getting hurt, live and let live. I will cheer you on.
What other things should we stop making people feel insecure about? Let’s use the comments to make a longer list!
